Transitions Life Coaching

"Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgement and shame.

It's a shield.

It's a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it's the thing that's really preventing us from flight."
~Brene Brown

I've love this quote because for so much of my life I lived with this belief. Or tried to.

A belief is just a thought we think over and over again. It doesn't necessarily mean it that it's true.

Looking back, I can say that perfection was my shield against fear.
Fear of failing.
Of not measuring up.
Feeling judged as not "good enough".
A story I created from very early on.

The reality is, trying to be "perfect" created inflexibility and rigidity within me.
I took on responsibility like it was my mission.
It became part of my ego.

The perfection shield is heavy. The focus I needed to carry it didn't allow me to have a wider perspective.
To relax without working myself to exhaustion.

To see and enjoy all the little bliss moments there are in each day.

To allow the love, help and support in times that I really needed it.

The shield kept me separate from others.
Isolated.

Except for rare occurrences, I wouldn't allow myself to be open-hearted, fully expressed...FREE!

Life is a beautiful thing, it continually gives us possibilities and opportunities to create new beliefs. To find the people, resources, and tools to heal.

To reconnect to who we truly are and find the courage to lay down our shields and stand bravely as who we are.

Is it time to lay down your shield?
I know, there is fear.
But we are stronger together.

Love,
Kirsten❤️