Soul Essentials Coaching

Anyone out there having trouble with letting something go?

When we hold on to something that doesn't serve us, we rob ourselves of contentment, happiness, joy, peace....the list can be long. Holding on to what we "could" let go of can cause extra stress in our daily lives that we don't have to lug around. So, why do we do it?

There's lots of reasons. Most of those reasons are probably in some hidden form of trying to protect ourselves. Often it's visible on the outside and on the inside - we feel we're entitled to "get back" at someone, or we don't feel validated, valued, or listened to. And that in itself is a valid point. But why don't we feel satisfied enough later - when the topic comes up again and we realize that the time we "got our revenge" or maybe we became spiteful - didn't work and we keep ourselves in the same place, day after day, year after year, trying to be the one who won't just let it go? Man. It sure takes a bunch of energy to stay mad or to stay angry. It takes a lot out of us, too. And we still don't feel satisfied. It's exhausting. And you deserve more peace.

Well, there is a solution. We must decide to let it go. We have to acknowledge that we're tired of feeling tired and feeling angry. I mean, if we can decide to be any of those things - we can also decide to feel happier. More joyful. Lighter. In control. After all, why should we give away our own power?

The answer to this is forgiveness. It won't always feel easy to just do that, but it's entirely possible to do it. Just forgive. Forgive whomever did you wrong. Forgive the one who purposely went out of their way to leave you in the dust, or broke a promise to you. The ones who never get ahold of you when all you do is reach out to them and you get no response. Makes you want to never call them again. I mean, two can play that game. But why play if it's not fun? So stop it. Get in control of your own actions and stop giving away your power. You're still a nice person. You are still valuable, loved, worthy, and important.

“Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.”

And just remember - “Forgiveness is taking back your power.”

For all you people pleasers out there – this might be a helpful message for you.

It’s exhausting when you spend all of your time trying to please others or when trying to fix something that’s truly not yours to fix. It’s kind to be helpful to others, but it’s also kind to be helpful to yourself. Stop. Step back. Breathe.

After all, if we can’t be in a good place for ourselves first, you really won’t be in a good place for others. 

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