StoneAgeFuel

I guess I was just too busy to realize...I never said it.

Something I heard the other day from a dad.

It was a really powerful statement and a self actualization moment for this person.

It actually gave me goosebumps just hearing it.

Literally pierced my heart.

I’ll tell you what he said in a moment.

This dad had been so busy working and building his business he let his relationship with his kids kind of pass by.

It had been years since this particular dad had told his daughter that he loved her.

They’d had a challenging relationship for sometime.

And neither knew how to communicate with each other.

The dad was just trying to get by and make a good life for his baby girl.

The daughter was struggling with feeling accepted and loved by her dad.

Both were frustrated.

The daughter was acting out as kids do.

As we were chatting about it I asked him a simple statement...

When was the last time you looked at her in the eye and really just said “I love you”

He couldn’t recall if it even had ever happened.

Said he felt embarrassed.

Like saying it now would be somehow not genuine.

So I asked him...

But what if you don’t?

What happens then?

What if she never realizes that you do love her and how you feel?

How much will she learn to resent you?

Are you willing to settle for that?

He said no.

And then with tears in his eyes.

Huffing a bit from the emotions he was feeling he said...

I guess I’ve just been so busy all these years trying to build a great life...I forgot to say I love you once in a while.

This person I’d do anything for I accidentally hurt.

What am I going to do now?

So I replied...

Why not just say I love you and let her in?

And he did.

The very next day.

They cried together.

Hugged.

Talked through years of pent up frustration.

They finally healed their relationship.

And for the first time truly felt connected to each other.

I think in this life we all have one opportunity to embrace who we are and those we love.

Dont hold back.

Don’t even worry about that what if.

Just do what feels right.

Our ability to communicate dictates the quality of our lives.

And as a dad to a beautiful little girl, I’ll remember this story for the rest of my life.

Sometimes I learn just as much from my clients as they do from me.

Finally time to say yes to you!