Conscious Fathers

I will not use my voice or body to coerce my co-parent, partner or child into doing what I want. I will use my words to teach & love, I will use my body to shelter & hold my family. When I fall short I will own my actions, not blame them on others. If I can't find a better way on my own, I will seek out other men who'll guide & teach me how to be the man & father I know I can be. U Agree? Comment/Like/RT

Something to ponder on a Saturday morning.

Protect ICWA and Tribal Sovereignty! Native children and U.S. Secretary of the Interior Deb Haaland are under legal attack in Brackeen v. Haaland. The powerful people behind the lawsuit include both Big Oil and the State of Texas. If their attempt to have a conservative-majority Supreme Court overturn the Indian Child Welfare Act is su...

I now work in a group home for boys who have experienced trauma. This is the rubber hitting the road.

So much this. Fear based anything creates harm.

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Short, but good conversation.

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I have been cleaning out boxes over the last few days. Just found this from when I was just starting...

I've been neglecting this page as I have transitioned away from a lot of my parenting ed work. But I think I'll start trying to re-engage. Fingers crossed.

Love Does Not Abuse: The Parenting Philosophy of bell hooks It is my hope that more progressive activists and thinkers will reflect on parenting and child care just as hooks has.

Over the last few years I've come to see attachment as one of the most fundamental elements of parenting and, frankly, being human. It impacts everything going forward. My new understanding has changed the way I work.with kids and parents in a fundamental way.

I've traveled a long road in my thinking about this. One of the fundamental shifts came after I processed.some of.my earlies memories of crying it out, and learning that no one was going to come help me. This translates into a grown up belief that those I love are not fully trustworthy. That's not self soothing, thats a thinking error.

"If we can be convinced to disengage with our babies, where does it end? Unknowingly, we allow cultural beliefs to set the stage for a lifetime of disconnection.

From cry it out to time out, it begs the question; how are we convinced to crush our compassion in the first place? What rewards could possibly justify being non-responsive to our children’s needs?

When it comes to infant sleep the prize we’re promised is self-soothing. The theory is that by ignoring a baby’s needs we’re actually teaching them a valuable lesson; how to soothe themselves so that, as parents, we won’t need to continue doing it for them.

Strengthening this theory is the ultimate motivator: fear. Parents are scared into believing that if they refuse to teach their baby how to self-soothe, they’re failing to teach a very necessary life skill.

Thankfully, self-soothing is an illusion. And when we shatter an illusion, it has no power over us; our love can’t be leveraged and our sleep-deprived desperation can’t be taken advantage of. We’re immune to being duped into believing that we need to carry out harsh parenting practices in an attempt to achieve something that doesn’t even exist.

It’s critical to expose and debunk these myths before they embed themselves in our subconscious; creating unrealistic expectations, fueling unnecessary frustration, and driving a wedge between us and those we love most.

Because, no matter what some may say, parenting matters.
Our choices can have powerful consequences, serving to either strengthen or weaken our mutual connection. To build or erode trust and to grow or diminish our confidence as new parents.

In a modern world that places such a high value on the species-inappropriate expectation of solitary sleep, we need to feel emboldened to ask tough questions, to scratch beneath the surface, and seek the truth. So, why is self-soothing the biggest con of new parenthood?"

https://raisedgood.com/self-soothing-biggest-con-new-parenthood/

Is Self Soothing the Biggest Con of New Parenthood? - Raised Good Do you feel pressured to sleep train your baby so they will learn to "self soothe"? In this post I'll explain why self soothing is nothing more than a myth.