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Not all emotions are created equal.

In Emotionally Focused Therapy, we help partners identify core emotions, like fear, sadness, or shame, that often hide beneath reactive behaviors. These are the deeper emotions that guide us toward connection and healing.

Adaptive emotions are our nervous system’s healthy responses to real experiences: fear keeps us safe, sadness helps us seek comfort, anger helps us protest injustice. But when these emotions are buried or blocked, often by defenses or old attachment injuries, they can come out distorted, or not at all.

When couples learn to access and share their core, adaptive emotions with each other, vulnerability becomes a bridge instead of a barrier. 🧠💬💙

What a wonderful way to spend the day! 💙

I had so much fun speaking about Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) at the Synergy eTherapy Annual Summit . Thank you to Lovelace, Psy.D., L.P. and the entire Synergy eTherapy team for creating such a welcoming space to learn, connect, and share ideas with fellow therapists.

One of my favorite things about teaching EFT is watching clinicians discover that couples aren't "too broken", they're just caught in a painful cycle that neither partner knows how to escape ♾️. When we learn to see the cycle instead of the enemy, everything begins to change. 💙

I'm always grateful for opportunities to talk about a model that has transformed the way I help couples heal, reconnect, and create lasting change.

Thank you again for having me, it was truly a pleasure! 💙

👇 I'd love to hear from the group...
What's one relationship lesson that has changed the way you connect with the people you love?

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Happy Independence Day from all of us at Evolve! 💙 We hope you are enjoying your holiday with friends and family 🇺🇸