The Passion Lab

Posting because I love opportunities to be out of my home office and out in the wild. Especially when I get to play dress up and spend time with other badass business babes 🎀

I’m here to also celebrate Nisha Blackwell of for making the lavallière I’m wearing (also called a p***y bow, LOVE THAT). I love all the compliments I get when wearing it. It makes up for all the days I’m working at home wearing cozy pants and sticky socks.

Other notable mentions, because a lot of my wardrobe comes from supporting smaller businesses 🫶🏽:
Velvet dress from
Socks from

And now for the s*x therapy part of the post, because this isn’t supposed to be just a OOTD 😅:
At an event hosted today by , I heard similar shared stories about ways our relationships can impact our careers by holding us back or slowing us down. It’s hard to fully compartmentalize different parts of our self.

❣️ I think about ways an argument about s*x can keep us up longer than intended. The next day we’re tired, more emotionally volatile, and anxious.
❣️ Or how having s*x that leaves us feeling empty and used can affect the way we carry ourselves.
❣️ Maybe the shame around who we are s*xual people makes it feel impossible to open up and be in a relationship, so we’re chronically lonely. Our self-esteem is compromised. The loneliness becomes distracting. The choices we make to avoid the feeling of loneliness becomes a problem. Now our work quality is affected too.
❣️ And let’s not forget how gut wrenching a breakup could be. The grief of its end. The ripping apart of the shared life you once had. It’s so all encompassing it’s hard to focus on much else.

I say “our” because I’ve experienced all these examples in different capacities, too. I think many of us have. Focusing on our s*xual health may not seem like a priority, but poor s*xual health will show up. It usually finds a way. And of course, positive s*xual health can do the complete opposite — giving us more confidence and helping us radiate joyful energy that we can feel and others can see ✨

So I ask you, dear readers, how does your s*xual health show up in your careers?

NEW BUSINESS CARDS! ✨😍🎉 This year I told myself I’d do more in-person events, so now I’m getting ready for it. Which card is your favorite?

Society has failed you. So if you struggle with s*xual and sensual pleasure, it's not your fault.

It failed you when it didn't teach you facts and research-based s*x education. It continues to fail you by not making reproductive rights fair to all. By not making barriers or methods to reproduction accessible to all. By upholding patriarchal, white supremacy ideals. By giving people who hoard wealth, participate in heavy plastic surgery, detrimental weight management routines, and perpetuating the crown for beauty standards. It fails you by not telling you what the c l ! t is. By obsessing over the c u m shot. By putting pe*******on and the big O on a pedestal. By making it so damn political to change the trash federal wage we have now into a liveable wage for all.

So, if you don't hear anything else, hear this. NO, it's not your fault. It's society's. That doesn't mean you don't have control. Pleasure is a right. Pleasure is a form of activism (check out ). Being present in your body, loving yourself anyway, prioritizing your desires are all ways to give society a big F-U

It's worth it.
It failed you when it didn't teach you facts and research-based s*x education.
It failed you when it didn't teach you facts and research-based s*x education. It continues to fail you by not making reproductive rights fair to all. By not making barriers or methods to reproduction accessible to all. By upholding patriarchal, white supremacy ideals. By giving people who hoard wealth, participate in heavy plastic surgery, detrimental weight management routines, and perpetuate the crown for beauty standards. It fails you by not telling you what the c l ! t is. By obsessing over the c u m shot. By putting pe*******on and the big O on a pedestal. By making it so damn political to change the trash federal wage we have now into a liveable wage for all.

Reminder~The point of s*xual freedom and expression is choice. You aren’t broken or missing something by wanting to move s*x off the priority list.
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