Do not lose sight of the fact that life continues after divorce. The decisions you are making now, together with the way you choose to behave, will effect the rest of your life and the lives of your children (if you have them). The REAL DRAWBACK and the most significant FAILURE of the traditional litigation approach to divorce is the IMPACT it will have on the rest of your life. To put it simply,
you and your spouse are the only people who have even a remote chance of designing a fully functioning,ready for anything, resolution in your case. Did you know that most family court Judges (in maricopa county) manage a caseload in excess of 6,000 cases per year? It is not unusual for a judge to hold five or more hearings most days, or to have back-to-back trials. Even though Judges sincerely do the best job they can to make decisions that are consistent with the law and which are in the best interests of the children, they have limited information and a limited amount of time with the parties in a case. The Judge doesn't know you, and while the children are important to the Judge, no Judge knows your children the way you do. In fact, nobody knows more about your life (or what’s best for you and your children) than you do; not a judge, not a lawyer, not your friends or parents, nobody. By accepting this simple fact right now, you have an opportunity to recognize that your best chance of moving forward without destroying everything you've built comes when you (and your spouse) are the one(s) making the decisions. Sure, you may need information, emotional support, legal advice, and direction; but that’s the easy part once you've honestly committed to making the best of this situation, focusing on the future (not the past), and doing your very best to work together with your spouse. At first glance, divorce might appear to be a destructive process; where a family is taken apart. Divorce does not have to be a destructive force in life; it can be a time to fortify and rebuild; a time to plan for the future; or even a time for growth and transformation. Get in touch with us so we can help you bring your case to an end and you can move forward in your life.
