Unbreakable Loves

Why spending time with, investing in, connecting with yourself isn’t selfish 🥰

Boy do I still struggle with this one!

Let me know if this sounds familiar. I spent my childhood, teenage years, most of my 20s, and still can get caught up in being wayyyyy too altruistic 🦋 Altruism, the act of selfless giving, is beautiful. But DOES IT NEED TO BE BALANCED OUT WITH GIVING BACK TO SELF 👏✨

I grew up believing I was a good person if

• I was a “good girl”
• I gave and didn’t DARE ask or need anything for myself
• I could take care of myself and didn’t need anyone else
• I was disliked if I was not agreeable
• Everyone around me being happy was more important than me being happy
• I was not allowed to be happy unless everyone else’s needs were being met
• If someone didn’t like me it was always because I was to blame for being too weird, not being understanding enough, not giving enough, all around not “enoughness”

I had a patient walk out of a session this week. We hit a nerve digging into past trauma, connecting with what he wants his life to look like, and helping him release the force field he created around him that was actually toxic and hurting him. Me 2 years ago, heck, maybe even less, would have CRUMBLED when someone said “I’ve had enough of this sh*t” and walked out of a session😧

The me today knows in my heart that I am not responsible for someone else’s happiness. I can support them. I can empathize with their pain. I can connect with them on a soul level. I can visualize them healthy. BUT it’s on them to make the changes.

I know this ⬆️ because I’ve done and continue to do the work, yes work because it’s not all easy, to release the stories that replay in my head telling me I HAVE to be what others have told me. I choose to listen to my 💗 my intuition 💗 my gut 💗
That part of us knows that we are beings of light and love. We are all here with gifts that compliment one another. That none of this is by accident. That life is meant to be, will be, what we want to create 🤗

Knowing you, investing in you, taking time for you, allows for the deep level of compassion for others. 🧜‍♀️