Tom Allen, PhD

https://www.themarginalian.org/2023/05/22/avoidance/

The Challenge of Closeness: Alain de Botton on Love, Vulnerability, and the Paradox of Avoidance The psychological machinery of our commonest coping mechanism for the terror of hurt, rejection, and abandonment.

Graduating soon or considering a career adjustment?

Dysfunctional Belief: Your degree determines your career Reframe: Three-quarters of all college grads don’t end up working in a career related to their majors.

A well-designed life is a life that makes sense. That means it is a life in which (1) who you are, (2) what you believe, (3), and what you do all line up together. Check out the most recent blog to learn more about life design.

How do I find a job that I like? — Tom Allen, PhD, PLLC Dysfunctional Belief: Your degree determines your career Reframe: Three-quarters of all college grads don’t end up working in a career related to their majors. A well-designed life is a life that makes sense. That means it is a life in which (1) who you are, (2) what you believe, (3), and what you

Looking for happiness?

Invest in relationships.

The world’s longest longitudinal studs on happiness highlights the significance of relationships. Dr. Robert Waldinger, one of the authors of The Good Life: Lessons from the world's longest scientific study of happiness shared the number one predictor of happiness according to their data.

Dr. Waldinger states that people should invest in their relationships with other people. “We found that the strongest predictors of who not just stayed happy but who was healthy as they went through life - the strongest predictors were the warmth and the quality of their relationships with other people.”

Here the full interview here:

What's the #1 thing to change to be happier? A top happiness researcher weighs in NPR's Ari Shapiro speaks with Dr. Robert Waldinger, one of the authors of The Good Life: Lessons from the world's longest scientific study of happiness.

https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2022/11/10/well/mind/panic-attack-symptoms-causes.html?smid=url-share

The Anatomy of a Panic Attack Up to a third of adults will experience at least one panic attack in their lifetime. Here's why they happen, and some coping strategies that work.