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Love note from Dr. B for people in the middle of their chapter of becoming. I have felt so in the prime of it. Like that messy middle, deeply humble, beautifully questioning space. It’s been a lot of life happening in my life at such an intense level. The ripeness of young ones. The confrontations of death, dying, and caretaking of elders. The challenges of the less glorious parts of my work.

I’ve been swirling with questions about my own life and what brings me the most joy and meaning when the hardness of life seems so unending and like it doesn’t slow down. How do I want to be living? What is it that I want to keep advocating and standing for during this one precious life I have? As I write this now I’m realizing I’m now in my 40s… f*ck. I kind of thought I was getting around the mid life crisis but it really has felt more like a mid life emergence. It’s always so funny to me to walk things in my own boots after having already walked into similar but different terrain in the life of others as a therapist.

When you’re in this deeply existential place it can feel frightening. Unclear. Almost panicky. On the outside it’s the most beautiful wrestling to me. To be confronted with such rich questions and to be willing to tousle with them. To look them in the face and get pulled into the waves for a bit until you emerge once again. I was hoping I could just emerge, towel off and go on about life renewed. Not quite. It’s such a process and man.. how we crave to feel the solid, warm earth under our feet. I’m sending Love to everyone that’s in the brave chapters of becoming, knowing that some stages across our lifespan are more tumultuous than others. I see you. You’re doing great. Keep going, keep going, keep going.

PS. I’ve been thinking a lot about Ram Dass’ quote: “we’re all just walking each other home.” I have felt that so much in my bones as friends, mentors, therapists, and healers have helped me during this rocky section of life. I’m grateful that we’re one space of many to help you along your way. Always here for you in any capacity we can to ease the burdensome parts of this gorgeous life of ours. Always sending t

It’s human nature to compare, and noticing how it feels inside can help you channel it in the best way for YOU. For example, comparing yourself to people you look up to in life can be an intentional way to feel inspired. However, when you notice comparison ramping up and leading to self-judgement, self-criticism, and sadness, this may be a moment to redirect attention to the unique path you’re taking. (and unique doesn’t mean wrong!)