Better Connection Couples Therapy

Communication is one of the most commonly reported issues in therapy. And it makes perfect sense because if communication is mastered, then there’s a higher level of understanding of one another and faster resolution.
3 common mistakes my couples make before beginning therapy are:
1. Incorrectly interpreting what their partner means
2. Focusing on how a situation unfolded or the chronological order of things
3. Interrupting one another to get their point across, turning the conversation into a debate

How often have you experienced these common mistakes in your relationship?

Triggers are tricky, especially when they’re activated in romantic relationships. We all have them though and sometimes they show up in ways we don’t want them to. Here are a few things to keep in mind so that we remain in control of our triggers and not the other way around:
1. Understand the origin of the trigger
2. Assess your emotional connection with your partner
3. Assess how you’re feeling and what you’re experiencing in your inner world
4. Acknowledge if the trigger needs to be processed with a therapist

As we SWING into the new year, I thought I’d take the time to introduce myself to my new followers and update everyone on why my page has been so slow lately!

I’m Yasman 👋🏻, licensed marriage and family therapist and owner of Better Connenction Couples Therapy! Despite my practice’s name, my clients aren’t just couples. I see individuals and different family dynamics as well!

I normally use my Instagram to share nuggets of wisdom and answer questions on my story. The past 10 months or so, I slowed down because my family grew by 2 little feet 👶🏻! I’m currently on maternity leave (as all of my current clients know) and I’m planning on returning in March.

In the meantime, I’m going to try to pick up where I left off on here and post more frequently. As always, if you have any questions or would like to secure your appointment in March, my email is in my bio!

Happy New Year and see y’all in 2022! ✨💖

Does conflict resolution feel more like tug of war or teamwork in your relationship?
Chances are if you’re pushing and pulling, most of the time, you never reach a resolution. Instead, exhaustion sets in until the next round over who knows what.
I know it sounds counterintuitive, but fighting with your partner really does require teamwork and it puts your relationship to the test.
Rather than pushing and pulling, teamwork means that by listening and validating, you’re helping your partner help you. If they feel heard and understood, they’re in a better position to do the same for you.
Of course, this takes lots of practice but here are a few tips to keep in mind:
•Try not to have these conversations when you’re in a heightened emotional state
•Focus on helping your partner understand you. If they struggle, rephrase and try again
•Use non-judgemental, non-critical language
•When your partner is finished speaking, tell them what you heard them say. This helps you improve your listening skills and lets them know you heard them correctly

Happy International Women’s Day to all the lovely women and to the men who celebrate and love the beautiful women in their lives.