The Inner Work

Someone who struggles with anger issues has a root cause wound of violation. This means they experienced past trauma where they were distrespected, violated, oppressed, or had boundaries crossed. Anything that made them feel like their autonomy, freedom, and worth were disrespected - this often occurs in childhood. They overcompensate for this wound by having a hyper fixation on feeling respected, having expectations met, and getting what they believe they deserve in life. When these fixations are not met and they immediately feel disrespected and act with anger such as frustration, initiating conflict, entitlement, and even as extreme as violence and aggression.

In order to heal anger issues, they have to heal their root trauma and begin to take back control of their actions and responses life. Learning to find pride and internal respect for your own responses to life is a major healing mechanism. Setting clear boundaries is also a way to protect yourself and find power in your life.

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Our thought patterns control how our body responds. Toxic thoughts and self-sabotage can begin to control the narrative of our life and our body learns to adapt to it.

If thoughts of self sabotage, self rejection, fear, judgement etc continue to play in our subconscious and conscious mind - without proper awareness and inner work - we become "addicted" to them.

We can learn to rewire these patterns with intentional inner work focused on healing inner child wounds, re-wiring thought patterns, and building emotional intelligence skills.

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Emotional invalidation is when your bid for connection with your partner is shut down with defensiveness, personal attack, and/or deflection. This type of emotional neglect is when your partner is unable to handle the discomfort of facing your emotions because deep down they haven't faced or processed their own. This behavior means that they are stuck in 1 or more of the 8 wounds in Inner Work Theory such as rejection (shame), judgement (guilt) etc..

These inner child wounds are unprocessed emotions from past experiences that end up coming out in our relationships in unhealthy ways. If you want to be able to heal these types of harmful behaviors or build your own self esteem and empowerment to walk away, you need to work through the 8 wounds of Inner Work Theory.

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