Fio Counseling

Helping folks break free from people-pleasing is personal for me. I loved getting to share about my experience in my interview with Authority Magazine and I’m excited to share it with YOU now that it’s out in the wild!

Ali Arteaga of Fio Counseling On How to Recover From Being a People Pleaser An Interview With Brooke Young & Yitzi Weiner

💪🏻 What If Anger Was Your ally?
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My abusive first marriage was a turning point for me with anger.
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In high school, I could express anger freely on the basketball court. I channeled it mostly into boxing out and defense, with just a handful of less refined fouls 😅
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Then everything changed with my first husband. All of a sudden standing up for myself was branded as “harsh” and “dramatic” and “mean.” My anger definitely felt wayyy off-limits after that.
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Despite knowing at a deep level that my anger was valid, and I wasn’t crazy, I still felt so guilty for feeling that way.
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So I internalized it (cue chronic pain and health issues).
I turned it towards myself (cue self-criticism).
And I felt powerless.
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Maybe you can relate?
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I wish younger me knew back then that anger was a reasonable response in light of what she was living in. Not something to be ashamed of.
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Looking for support with befriending and expressing your anger in healthy ways? DM me for the link to schedule a FREE 20-min consult call and see if working together feels right for you (Colorado residents only) 🫶🏻

Healing and growth is for you, too.
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It’s so, so possible, even when it feels out of reach. There’s hope.
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I also totally get it if it doesn’t feel true right now.
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I’ve been there. In the depths of despair and hopelessness. Unable to even imagine a life post-trauma. Unable to imagine joy and connection and safety existing for me ever again.
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And then little by little, the sun started to shine again. Healing can feel a little bit like a miracle. In some ways, I think it is (mixed with a whole lot of grit and kindness and water ).
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It’s a journey for sure, one that’s often not linear. And one you don’t have to navigate alone. Whenever you’re ready, I’m here.
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✨Comment HOPE and I’ll send you the link to get started.
✨Send to someone who needs this reminder today.