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ShameOver empowers women to drink less
without losing the booze completely or going cold turkey!
04/27/2026
Alcohol often isn’t just about the alcohol.
For so many women, it has become the support system where support is lacking everywhere else. And that is exactly what this podcast episode is about.
In Part 1, and I talk about:
• what somatic work actually means and why it’s become such a buzzword
• the difference between top-down healing and body-based healing
• why so many women use alcohol to “shut off”
how alcohol can become a stand-in for support, soothing, and regulation
• the role of motherhood, caregiving, and overwhelm in drinking habits
• why co-regulation matters so much more than we’ve been taught
• how Western culture disconnects us from our bodies
• why community can be one of the most healing parts of the journey
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About Elani:
Elani Engelken is a depth psychotherapist and somatic healer whose work sits at the intersection of nervous system science, depth psychology, and embodied healing. She works with individuals, couples, families, and groups to explore the patterns that live beneath the surface, in the body, in the lineage, and in relationship. She is particularly drawn to the places where psychology and the sacred meet. (And she’s really freaking awesome and amazing at what she does!)
Guess what? You’re not “too emotional” - you likely were never taught how to FEEL your emotions.
And so what do we do?
We distract.
We push it down.
We pour a glass of wine and tell ourselves we’ll deal with it later.
But here’s the truth no one talks about:
👉 What you don’t process… your body will.
That stress? That grief? That low-grade “off” feeling you can’t quite explain?
It doesn’t disappear. It just waits.
And sometimes it shows up as: Burnout. Anxiety. Getting sick. Or that moment where everything hits you all at once.
I've lived this. Multiple times.
And I can say with absolute certainty— numbing it with alcohol doesn’t make it go away…
…it makes it last longer.
Feeling your emotions isn’t the problem.
Avoiding them is.
So before you reach for a drink tonight, ask yourself:
✨ What am I actually feeling right now?
✨ How am I letting these feelings come through to be processed?
✨ And what would it look like to let that be okay?
Start there.
That’s where everything changes.
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