Heartwork Counseling Center

Children need the backing of their parents to happily grow and develop.

With a divorce, they are left with unanswered questions, and worries. Who will they live with? Will they have to move and change schools? Will their parents stop loving them too?

The difficulties are compounded if parents use the children to punish their ex-spouse by sabotaging visitation or lying to them. This adds to their confusion, disappointment and hurt.

Parents can make the decision to share parenting and maintain communication to help their children adjust to this difficult change and move forward in their lives.

Counseling can be helpful for guidance at this time.
And if you’re going through a divorce and need some extra support, don’t hesitate to reach out.

When a couple divorces they are faced with the failure of their relationship and their inability to continue to love and value each other as they once did.

The spouse who initiates the break-up has been in pain. If their partner wasn’t aware of this, they will be shocked and lost when they hear the news.

In addition, if the spouse went outside the marriage to get their emotional needs met, the partner may be deeply hurt, confused and in need of support.

Each partner deals with the grief and pain of the past as well as the uncertainty that the future holds.

It is a difficult journey through uncharted territory.

In a future piece, I’ll write about how divorce affects the children of the family.

And if you’re going through a divorce and need some extra support, don’t hesitate to reach out.

You may be in a crisis or preparing for a new venture.

You may have had an argument with a loved one or dealing with an illness in the family.

During these times, it is good to have a listener who is not involved in your personal life so they don't have their own agenda as they hear you.

These are times when a psychotherapist can be helpful.

A therapist knows how to listen and ask questions to help you to sort things out.

They can help you get clear about your thoughts and what you are feeling, helping you get grounded so you can move forward.

If you think sharing your thoughts with a therapist would be helpful, don’t hesitate to reach out.