Anna Gonowon Coaching

Every weekend through September is booked for me.

I'm excellent at multi-tasking and am exceptional at strategizing, planning, organizing, and delivering. However, to make things happen, I've had to learn how to prioritize, stick to boundaries, and be absolutely honest about what I'm responsible for and what I'm not responsible for.

I've had to learn to get comfortable with saying "No."

Ugh, and learning to say no is awful, especially as I'm a former people pleaser and used to equate my worthiness to my abilities to anticipate, solve, produce, deliver, and be responsible for everyone else's feelings and emotional well-being. Stuff that most women experience, particularly if you're BIPOC (I'm Filipino-American) and the oldest daughter.

If you struggle with emotional independence and boundaries, try asking yourself a few questions today:

1) What happens if I don't do it, assuming "it" isn't a work obligation with a hard deadline?

2) Assuming it's not a work obligation with a hard deadline, how did I end up with having most of or all the responsibility for it happening?

3) What is standing in the way of me saying no?

4) What could I be doing instead?

In late July, I'll be teaching 3 classes, and one class is Emotional Independence & Boundaries. In that class, we'll address questions like these and many others. Limited availability and sign-ups open soon.