Clarity Counseling

A lot of times we struggle to feel connected to or loved by other and feel like it's something they're doing wrong (and sometimes it is!). Other times though, we've simply been conditioned not to request things of other people in support of our needs. That can be because we don't want to burden or demand of others, but a request is not a demand.

It's OKAY to request of others when we need it. Doing so not only treats you as an equal to others (not less, not more), but also gives them an opportunity to show their love and care in ways that you can feel because you experience them prioritizing something you want when they didn't have to.

Yes, we are ultimately responsible for taking care of ourselves, but giving the people around us the opportunity to support us is life giving for us AND for them, and we feel connected.

To do this well, we need to know what our needs are and which ones others may be able to support us in (and we can just tell them about the ones they can't help us with) - so that our relationship can be stronger and it will invite them into giving you opportunities to reciprocate. That's called trusting, healthy mutual support.

Help yourself feel more love from the people around you by .

Symptom Deprivation is a great way to begin to understand the unconscious purpose of your emotional or behavioral responses to different situations. Here's an example of it in action!