Phil Stille

You do not have to be fully healed, fully clear, fully confident, or fully “ready” before you can help people. Whether you see a direct relation or not, I think it is a valuable thing to take in or affirm.

When my first mindset coach suggested that I offer some kind of guidance or coaching opportunity to the people who were commenting on my videos, my immediate thought and statement was, “Who am I to do that?” To which he said, “Who are you not to?” And I sat back and said, “Fair point.”

The idea of our capability to help others, or how much value we feel we have to offer, is one of the sneakiest places the inner critic shows up. It can sound like, “Who am I to do this?” or, “This isn’t good enough yet,” or, “I still have too much of my own stuff to work through.”

All of that is the same s**t as any other aspect of a negative inner narrative. Just more extensions of the inner critic that we already focus on practicing awareness around with cannabis, self talk, and the way we relate to ourselves.

These negative thought patterns are not always isolated to one area of life. They can show up around relationships, work, money, cannabis, purpose, and confidence. But underneath it, they are often connected in a nonlinear way through the brain, nervous system, and even the endocannabinoid system.

So if resistance comes up around offering your perspective to someone who wants to hear it, or sharing your perspective online, or speaking in front of a group of people, that does not automatically mean the resistance is telling the truth.

More often than not, it just means you touched an old pathway that is pretty deeply embedded. That part of the brain wants to keep you safe. You are likely already aware of the idea that the ego or subconscious does not usually like to divert from what is familiar.

If this resonates with you, please know that you are able to help more people than you can possibly imagine. You already are, even just in your smile or occasional laugh around others. But beyond that, your life experience as a whole and the lessons you will continue to learn are worthy of being shared with those who either desire it or happily