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That color! 😍😍😍 I've always known whole foods are best....but actually finding ways to make them taste good....that was the problem!
I made a homemade raspberry vinegrette with no oil, no sugar and no fats, and it
was delicious! 🤤🤤

Because I care about all women and this needs to be known. NO. ONE. has any business telling you who or who can't support you in labor. Period. Please know your rights!

I fully intend on having a doula when the time comes.....I like to think I have great doctors & this wouldn't happen but you never know 😩

So, just. this. week. I have learned of several obstetric practices terminating care with their current pregnant clients who are planning to hire, or have hired, a doula. Most letters say "effective immediately" and some offices have posted signs in their offices "warning" women of their refusal to work with clients using doulas.

This tells me a couple things...

1. Doulas ARE successfully advocating at births when care providers are becoming manipulative, coercive, disrespectful, or otherwise abusive towards laboring and birthing women. And that advocacy is working.

2. Care providers are feeling a loss of POWER (and control) when serving women who are informed and educated on their rights as people and stand confident in that knowledge when the mistreatment begins. (Often, there is an association between informed pregnant women and those choosing to hire a doula.) As a result, these obstetricians are "taking matters into their own hands" and simply refusing to work with women who have the support of a doula.

Except...THE THING IS.... it's NOT any care provider's decision who pregnant families choose to have in their birthing space. Ever. Anywhere. And honestly, pregnant women should not be ASKING care providers for their "thoughts" or "permission" to have doula support at their baby's birth. The idea that these OBs believe they have the authority to even weigh in on this decision is mind-blowing. THAT is how much power they've been told they have over their client's care, and they don't like it when it's threatened or removed.

What is the solution to this asinine behavior?

If you're pregnant and birthing in a hospital, YOU STILL NEED A DOULA REGARDLESS OF THESE "POLICIES" THAT THESE OBs ARE STATING. DO NOT allow these people to TALK YOU OUT OF the unmatched support of a doula at your baby's birth.

There is overwhelming evidence that doulas improve birthing outcomes and any obstetrician, or midwife, that refuses to "allow" the presence of a doula at your baby's birth is NOT one you want attending your baby's birth....!

So, if you are seeing a doctor that says "I don't work with/collaborate with doulas", RUN out the door of that office and choose someone else for your prenatal care. DO NOT allow that kind of behavior to sway YOUR decision for what YOU want for your baby's birth. (Sidenote: doulas work for the families that hired them, bound by a contract. They do not “collaborate” with doctors or midwives. They have a completely separate job/role altogether.)

When we run away from providers like that to switch to someone else who will actually care for us, and then STILL HIRE A DOULA, that will organically turn into a boycott for these absurd doctors who believe they have a right to state their OPINION on doulas. They will lose clients as a result. End of story.

This both infuriates me....AND tells me we ARE making waves as doulas ❤




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