Effective Parenting N.a. East

What parenting move did you make today to replace controlling with allowing?

Happy new year!!!!

These days of tiny arms wrapped around our necks can feel exhausting. Like we’re in a never ending tug of war being pulled in too many directions. We find ourselves asking if our children need more than we have to give.

These days of early parenthood can make us feel unproductive, like we’ve achieved nothing or that we’re not enough.

But the truth is that these days will pass all too soon. These days are a gift. And we will look back and trade anything to relive one more day where not much happened. We’ll miss their tiny fingers poking our faces and pulling our hair and we’ll realize that this, this was the most important work of our lives. This is our legacy.

As hard as it may be these moments are making our families sacred. Your sacrifices are forging unshakable bonds with your children.

No matter what the tiny voice inside your head says you are ALWAYS enough. More than enough. You are the sun and the moon and the stars. You are the ocean and the sky. You are their world.

So lean in mama. When it gets tough don’t hide. Don’t run for cover. Don’t disconnect and fall for the notion that we need to instill independence. Bravely meet their needs for dependence. Hold them close and trust that true and strong independence will come. Meet their needs for connection and feel yourself being softened by the warmth and breadth of your own unconditional love.

Give yourself the grace and space you need to do so. And lean on us, your village, when you need to.

Celebrate these days of tiny arms wrapped around your neck for what they are - a precious and fleeting gift.

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Fighting a rare, incurable cancer, but I'm still here!💞 L.R.

Must find a balance...Gordon Model can help.

Every strength has a corresponding challenge and every challenge has a corresponding strength.

🌱The inattentive child may be a deep thinker.
🌱The uncooperative child may be a good leader.
🌱The emotionally-charged child may be gifted with exceptional empathy.
🌱The rule-defying child may be an out-of-the-box innovator.

When faced with challenging behaviors, look for the corresponding strength, and focus on nurturing that gift while providing gentle guidance and coping techniques for the challenging areas.

That is the essence of working with, instead of against, our children.

-L.R.Knost