Ali Miller Therapy

When we’re caught in shame, we often forget we’re not alone in our struggles. But self-compassion gently reminds us: we all stumble, we all hurt, and we all belong. 💗

If you’re feeling isolated today, take one small step—place a hand on your heart, and remind yourself of your humanity.

Dr. John Gottman, a renowned psychologist and leading researcher on relationships, hopes more parents will see interactions like this as opportunities to help their children feel seen and heard, not as chances to assert control. 📹: gottmaninstitute/TikTok

We all experience moments of hurt, frustration, or disappointment in relationship—but how do we address them without making things worse?

How can you talk about the things that bother you in a way that doesn’t escalate the conflict or further damage the connection?

In episode 28 of the Love Each Other Better podcast, we’ll explore the critical difference between intent and impact and why both matter. Most of the time, your partner is probably not trying to hurt you—they’re trying to meet a need. But when the impact of their actions does hurt, that still really matters.

When you can talk about both the intent behind their actions AND the impact it had on you, you open up the possibility of not only deepening your understanding and strengthening your bond, but also finding solutions to the challenges in your relationship that genuinely work for both of you.

Tune in to episode 28 for actionable advice that will help you approach those painful moments with clarity, curiosity, and the tools you need to build a stronger + realer relationship, together.

Your love story isn’t broken—it’s just waiting for a deeper, more compassionate conversation. 💗