Soulful Relating Institute with Tziporah

I value and appreciate when someone asks me what I need or how I am feeling instead of making assumptions from their filtered perceptions.

What about you?

Have you ever noticed when you have an idea of what someone else is going through and what they need and rather than ask them "how are you feeling?" "What do you have the capacity for right now?" "What are you needing?" Instead, you create a story in your head about this person, their capacity, and their needs and project your story and ideas onto the other person.

Arghhh. I know I used to do this with my Mother and I am sure I have done it with friends and lovers at times. It took some conscious awareness to sit back, ask and listen without my agenda in the way!

Yes, frustrating isn't it from both sides.

Because you mean well, you care for the other person and you are telling yourself this is why you are doing it. However, is it caring if nowhere did you inquire and ask the other person what was true for them?

I don't like it when someone takes my snowball away (aka the ability to choose for myself). and I appreciate and LOVE when someone is curious about truly how I am feeling and what I am needing at the moment. I imagine you do too!

Doesn't it feel good to have an intimate connection in this way? And it can feel awkward to approach relating in such a way if it is new and different. The idea is our communication is creating a real human connection. Which assuming and projecting does not.

Curious about what your experiences from either side have been like in your life. If you wish to share in the comments.

Together in learning and evolving.

❤️ *x # *xuality