Embrace Therapy

Thanks to Disney 🥀 and chick flicks many of us think our s*x lives has to always be on 🔥: romantic, passionate, connective, you fill in the blank.

The reality is however, that just like our emotional connection can be on point, meh, or distant depending on the day, our moods, what's going on in our lives, the phase of life we're in, etc. our s*x lives can also run the spectrum of being on point, meh, or disconnected.

Having a thriving s*x life is a skill that takes CONSISTENT practice & repetition.

We cannot wait for the stars to perfectly align each day to get our practice in.

So does that mean we should dishonor our no and be intimate when we know we don't want to be❓

Absolutely not!! 🙂‍↔️🚫

But if we are feeling eh or maybe down for something, not sure, maybe not, then the best thing we can do is show up for the experience.

It could be it won't be 🔥 and that's ok. What we are getting out of the experience can be a lot of other important things: we are showing up for our relationship, for our partners, getting emotional connection, feeling desired, feeling pursued, creating space for play, inhabiting our bodies, etc.

And plus as Emily Nagoski's research points out, a lot of times, especially for women, we don't start out in the mood but once we get started, we actually bring ourselves into the mood.

Ironically, when we consistently show up to our s*x lives, that's when we actually get the most 🔥❤️ going!

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We're launching our pilot program, OPERATION: BACK TOGETHER!!

Shalom Bayit is the cornerstone of the home. The vibe we create with our spouses creates the vibe of our homes. Plus, our kids' mental wellbeing is directly impacted by the quality of our marriages. When we are solid, they have a much greater chance of feeling solid, whole, and secure.

The impact of this is HUGE!!! Healthy marriages ➡️ healthy children ➡️ healthy society.

Operation Back Together gives miluim couples, who have sacrificed so so much, the space and opportunity to solidify their relationship and create a thriving shalom bayit.

Being in survival mode is NOT the time to be in processing mode. Now that many men are returning home from the battlefields, it's the perfect time to start incorporating each partner's experiences and wisdom over the past 2️⃣ years to be a stronger and more resilient couple than ever before.

Our program is not intense and heavy. We've had enough of that over the past 2️⃣ years. Instead, my executive and team coach husband Ari Friedman and I put together a program (with food 🍕 of course!) that has a ton of fun activities that are meant to bring a couple closer together and deepen their understanding and appreciation for one another.

If you or anyone you know is interested in this or future programs helping miluim couples connect and learn skills in a fun, chilled way, feel free to DM me! 💌

Thank you to in for sponsoring this event so that our anglo Miluim couples can relax, have fun, and boost their connection with one another. 🙏🏻

We're launching our pilot program, OPERATION: BACK TOGETHER!! Shalom Bayit is the cornerstone of the home. The vibe we create with our spouses creates the vibe of our homes. Plus, our kids' mental wellbeing is directly impacted by the quality of our marriages. When we are solid, they have a much greater chance of feeling solid, whole, and secure. The impact of this is HUGE!!! Healthy marriages ➡️ healthy children ➡️ healthy society. Operation Back Together gives miluim couples, who have sacrificed so so much, the space and opportunity to solidify their relationship and create a thriving shalom bayit. Being in survival mode is NOT the time to be in processing mode. Now that many men are returning home from the battlefields, it's the perfect time to start incorporating each partner's experiences and wisdom over the past 2️⃣ years to be a stronger and more resilient couple than ever before. Our program is not intense and heavy. We've had enough of that over the past 2️⃣ years. Instead, my executive and team coach husband Ari Friedman and I put together a program (with food 🍕 of course!) that has a ton of fun activities that are meant to bring a couple closer together and deepen their understanding and appreciation for one another. If you or anyone you know is interested in this or future programs helping miluim couples connect and learn skills in a fun, chilled way, feel free to DM me! 💌 Thank you to @kehilatdarcheitzion in #modiin for sponsoring this event so that our anglo Miluim couples can relax, have fun, and boost their connection with one another. 🙏🏻 #couples #marriage #idf #israel #embracetherapy

So many of us are struggling now with the many political, religious, existential shifts that are happening in the world, in our communities, and in Israel.  At our tables, we are questioning, "how can we be happy on zman simchateinu with all the pain that is going on?"

And the answer is: It is hard. So hard. Hard to feel both the joy and the pain.

But the thing is, we are incredible, complex beings, capable of holding multiple states and feelings at the same time.

We can be joyful AND we can feel grief

We can be so grateful and happy that our brothers and sister are finally coming home AND devastated by what they've gone through and what we've lost

We can be relieved the war is going to be over AND feel on edge or in denial or terrified of what comes next now that it will indeed be over.

We can dance and sing on Simchat Torah AND mourn the two year anniversary of October 7th.

Maybe that's what pure joy is after all.  An evolved joy. A joy that is not naive and in the clouds. A joy that is fully aware of the pain and suffering and horrors and still retains its identity.  Maybe that's what this time of year is really about: the complexity of finding joy amid the pain.

May we all experience the purest, most evolved joy this year and know no more suffering.💛