Authentic Self Austin

Enough said.




Words of

Everyone deserves compassion in their sorrow, remember that you are included in “everyone” and try not to discount your own feelings.

Your sorrows are just as valid as anyones. We don’t deny our happiness because others may be even happier, try not to deny your sorrow because others may have it worse.

On the other hand, try not to carry the sorrow of the world. It is beautiful to lean into your compassion for the people that are losing their homes and safety but also important not to live there, try to move toward all that you do have in this moment for a while. Perhaps its safety, quiet, sunshine, food in the fridge, a pet you can snuggle, legs you can walk on, lungs that can breathe in clean air.

If donating feels helpful, do it, if crying feels helpful, do it, if screaming feels helpful, do it, but do it all with compassion for your lovely self.

Feelings, emotional and physical, are simply information our body and mind are sending us. All they ask of us it to tune in to them, acknowledge they are there and feel them. It sounds so simple but this is literally happening all day every day and how often are you noticing?

If we stop noticing long enough what once may have been a subtle whisper can start to become a scream. Tuning in will bring the calm and clarity you are looking for. This is a skill that can be learned, even if we have spent a lifetime learning how to tune out.

Do you honor how you feel? Are you aware of what you feel? If your answer is no or I don’t know, that is so ok, you are not alone in this, but it is important to learn.

Our society doesn’t exactly champion this sentiment, it often champions the opposite, dishonoring what you feel in the name of productivity, keeping the status quo, or simply because of others sheer discomfort at feeling their own emotions. We are often taught some emotions are bad or unacceptable and others better than others, but emotions are neither good nor bad, they are neutral by design and all are equally important. And can you guess what feelings entire roles are? Simply to be felt.

This does take acknowledging that they are there and allowing them to remain as they are without creating a story around them, or judging ourselves for feeling them. When we can do so, emotions are one of our most important guides, they help us to know ourselves, our hearts, our needs, our relationships. Not tapping into this important internal information can get us into all kinds of sticky situations that may have been easily avoided if only we felt our feelings.

A big part of changing our relationships to ourselves may very well include changing our relationships to our emotions. Try honoring the next time sadness pricks your eyes, or anger makes your jaw clench, accept that they are present, allow them to remain, and ask them what they need to teach you about yourself, about what you value, what you need, what you don’t.

You are already whole, already full of so much wisdom that it is always ready and waiting to guide you whenever you are ready to honor how you truly feel.

Let it be.

‘Let it go’ to me feels like a judgment, like someone saying what you are feeling/experiencing right now is something I don’t want to deal with. It almost feels like a call to deny what you are experiencing, to suppress emotions in the name of another’s comfort. What feels so much more loving is ‘let it be.’ That to me says what you are experiencing and feeling is ok, try not to judge it, to create a story around it, to pick it apart. Simply accept reality for what it is it, allow your feelings and experiences to happen as it does, in the present moment, without judgment.

Let it be.