Ditch The Game

Grateful to work with amazing men who are ready to show up in their lives and relationships.

I'm not just another dating coach! I mean, of course we will talk about dating but I believe that we can't just change one area of our lives without it changing other areas.

Are you ready for change? Check out my FREE training here >>> https://watch.natehockstra.com/s/atc6OD

Dating can be really tough when you don’t know what you want or feel like you can’t fully be yourself.

When I met my wife, we spent our first date talking for hours. She mentioned that it was the first time she felt she could just be herself on a date.

When we play games in dating, we rob ourselves from attracting the right person, the one who compliments who we truly are.

I can honestly say that dropping the masks we thought we needed to wear has made for an authentic connection and marriage. We see each other for who we truly are: the good, the bad, the ugly!

Are you ready to drop your mask and ditch the game?

My wife released her 3rd published book yesterday and to commemorate it, she interviewed me! She asks me a lot of questions about what helped me to improve my dating life and ultimately led me to her. Check it out!

Sunrise Gratitude w/ Nate Hockstra My guest today is one of my favorite people, my husband, Nate. He is the founder of Ditch the Game where he helps men find meaningful relationships without u...

I talk to a lot of guys each week. Usually, these are conversations with guys who have booked a call with me to talk and get some help in their dating lives.
I speak with guys of all types: blue collar guys, white collar guys, some in their 20’s, a lot of them in their 30’s and 40’s, and even some guys in their 50’s. Guys from all over the US and various backgrounds.
The one commonality that seems to be prevalent with these guys is, loneliness.
“Cool Nate, thanks for bringing the sunshine into my life today”, I hear you saying to yourself.
Now before you delete the email and dismiss what I’m about to say. I realize I may have added more salt in the wound and if you are in fact, a lonely guy, bear with me…
There’s a lot of value in being able to see reality for how it is. In fact, it’s when we resist reality we often get into trouble. Whether it’s a shoving it down and acting like it’s not there or just plain finding ways to distract ourselves from it, neither are good options.
Obviously, our world has seen it’s better days. And these effects of the shutdowns and quarantines have made the lonely people even more lonely. And the sting of loneliness is not something to mess around with. There’s a lot of data out there that suggests it’s one of the worst things for us.
In fact, I read about a study the other day done by two psychologists at UC Berkeley of 9000 people where the goal was to see what had the biggest effects on people’s longevity. In the 9- year study what ended up being the biggest predictor of longevity in men was not exercise or diet or how much cholesterol they did or didn’t have, it was the quality of their personal relationships. And what determined whether men would die younger was whether or not they were married.
“Cool Nate, thanks for that.”
Now here’s the thing, many of my clients who have gone through this pandemic are actually less lonely than they’ve ever been.
I’m not here to advocate what to believe about social distancing and how to go about it; that’s totally up to you. Whether you could care less about social distancing or you prefer to keep your distance and go the Zoom route, you too can be successful in your dating life even amidst this pandemic.
Take my client Erik for example, here’s a guy who was having NO success even before the pandemic. His confidence was low, he was frustrated, and had little success dating women.
After just two weeks of working together on some crucial changes in his online dating approach, his confidence and a few other things, he met someone online, went on a few dates and started a magnificent relationship…DURING quarantine!
Loneliness be gone!
If you’re the type who lays in bed at night wishing you had someone to fall asleep next to and wake up to the next morning, let’s talk. Because I bet now more than ever, you’re feeling it and it doesn’t have to be that way.
I do free 30-40 minute “breakthrough calls” where we talk about what challenges you’re facing, what type of relationship you want to create, and discuss whether I think I can help you. If you’re ready to find a partner and be one of the guys who finds someone in the midst of chaos, not someone who suffers more pain of loneliness each and every night, let’s talk.
This is for you if:
You’re a successful guy in other areas of your life like your career or business but for whatever reason have not been able to find love
You’re committed to finding a partner you can spend the rest of your life with
You confused about dating, why it’s not working for you and understand the value of having a coach to help you navigate the modern dating landscape
Go to natehockstra.com/apply to book a time to speak with me. Let’s rid any loneliness that may be prevalent, find you the woman you're meant to go to sleep with and wake up to, each and every day.
Talk soon.

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