Strong.Love

Most people were taught to be good.

Polite, neighborly, considerate.

But not many people were taught how to be a partner.

And those are not the same job.

You can be a genuinely good human and still struggle in relationships. Because partnership isn’t about intention… it’s about skills:

How you handle conflict. How you regulate yourself. How you show up when it’s inconvenient, not just when it’s easy.

Being a “good guy” might get you a date.

But it won’t sustain connection.

Because being a good person doesn’t automatically make you a good partner.

But hey, if you've got the ingredients, come get the recipe.

I wrote a blog about what skills do sustain connection for The Good Men Project—check it out here 👇(live link in story)

https://medium.com/change-becomes-you/being-a-good-person-doesnt-automatically-make-you-a-good-partner-6217180d7bc6

This is the line that most of the comments on my TEDxTalk have highlighted as impactful. What are your thoughts?

Here's the whole talk if you want to check it out: https://youtu.be/4r6zC9BzPrM?si=bGyubcWYTNzDqFTo

My TEDx talk is officially live!!!! ✨🙌

https://youtu.be/4r6zC9BzPrM?si=_tep8S6xs88fzilJ

Less than twenty-four hours ago, Why Unhappy Relationships Feel So Lonely: 4 Skills for Modern Romance went up on YouTube.
As of right now, it’s already passed 13.5K views!! Honestly, I’m still letting that sink in.. and I'm so grateful this talk is resonating with so many people.

This talk exists because I’m tired of the story we’re being sold about modern love.

The problem isn’t a gender war.
It’s not that people are “too much” or “not enough.”
It’s that we’re trying to build emotionally connected relationships using outdated maps designed for survival and function—not connection.

We were taught to partner up, but we were not taught how to relate or be successful in those partnerships!

In this talk, I share what I’ve learned from years of working with couples and individuals at the breaking point: connection isn’t magic or chemistry—it’s a set of skills. Specifically, the 4 S’s of Safety:

Self-Awareness

Stability

Self-Regulation

Self-Expression

When those skills are missing, relationships don’t just feel hard—they feel lonely, even when you’re not alone.

The response to this talk tells me something important:
People aren’t looking for sides.
They’re looking for tools.
They’re looking for a way back to each other.

If this resonates with you, I hope you’ll watch, share it with someone you love (or someone you’re struggling to love right now), and start practicing these skills together. That’s where real change happens.

Thank you for the support, the messages, and the conversations this talk is already sparking.
This is why I do this work—and I’m just getting started.

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Holiday Builds & Bonds Fundraising Drive and Volunteer Day for Partnerships for Children

Want to change the world? Start with one child who needs to feel remembered.

This season, we're teaming up with Partnerships for Children helping 10 Texas foster kids get the Christmas they deserve.

$100 = 1 child = one unforgettable holiday.
Goal: $1,000 by December 16th.
If you’ve got heart, this is your moment.

Donate: https://strongmen.betterworld.org/campaigns/giving-kids-christmas

Want to do more than click a link? Come get hands-on.

Join us for our Builds & Bonds Volunteer Night
🗓️ December 10th
🕓 5–7 PM
📍 Partnerships for Children Warehouse

We’ll be wrapping gifts, creating joy, and proving—once again—that STRONG is love in action.

Sign Up to Volunteer: https://www.strong.love/event-details/builds-and-bonds-holiday-toy-drive-and-volunteer-day

Be the reason a kid feels seen this Christmas. Take a STRONG step toward being the change in the world you want to see.