Julia Rocque Coaching

I coach on self-love EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. People get confused, thinking that they will somehow become prideful, unkind, and self-centered if they allow themselves to love themselves. But the opposite is true. When we love ourselves, we become MORE humble, loving, and selfless. This is because we stop comparing ourselves and trying to EARN our worthiness. Self-love is at the foundation of better relationships, more confidence, and greater happiness.

Who can relate? The truth is our unconscious brain is wired to make predictions and try to minimize danger and suffering in the future. So, sometimes this leads to overthinking. This sometimes helps us when we have control over the outcomes in our lives. But it often backfires when we are applying this to our teens. Worry, fear, and anxiety pretend to be useful, but never actually prevented a catastrophe in someone else's life.

Choose your hard. It's hard to have difficult conversations. It's hard dealing with the aftermath of conversations that never happened. It's hard dealing with an unhappy teen after you've set a boundary. It's hard dealing with a teen that takes advantage of you. It's hard to give consequences. It's hard to have a teen (who then becomes an adult) that never learns to take responsibility for their actions.