In-Christ Reality

HOW TO BETTER COMMUNICATION IN YOUR MARRIAGE

1. ASK OPEN-ENDED QUESTIONS
Ask questions that require more than a yes or no answer, questions that initiate conversations such as "How was your day?", "How did you get that scar?", "How is your heart?"

2. FIND OUT TOPICS YOUR SPOUSE ENJOYS
Don't just talk about bills and responsibilities, engage your spouse in conversations your spouse enjoys such as business, leadership, general knowledge, design... talks about life and emotions

3. USE ENDEARING NAMES
When you call your spouse with special names such as "Darling", "Hun", "Sweetheart", "Love" it makes the communication sweeter

4. REPLY OR CALL BACK AS SOON AS YOU CAN
Ignoring or delaying to reply or calling back your spouse discourages communication

5. BE COURTEOUS
Learn to say "Thank you", "Please", "Kindly", it makes your tone warmer and less entitled

6. HAVE HUMOUR IN MARRIAGE
The more you two laugh together, the closer you will get

7. SPEND QUALITY TIME
There are some conversations that cannot be rushed and you two will only have them when you spend adequate time together

8. SOLVE ISSUES QUICKLY
Issues kill communication. Learn to swallow your pride and reconcile faster

9. ASK YOUR SPOUSE IF EVERYTHING IS OK WHEN HE/SHE IS ACTING WEIRD
If you notice your spouse has changed or not himself/herself; ask... sometimes all your spouse needs is an invitation to open up

10. APOLOGIZE AND FORGIVE
If you do wrong, say sorry. Stop holding on to grudges. People who value their love do this

11. AVOID SILENT TREATMENT
Stop trying to punish your spouse with silent treatment, it only pushes your spouse away

12. AVOID TALKING ALOT WHEN ANGRY
When people are angry, they tend to say regrettable things. Hold your tongue

13. AGREE ON HOW TO HANDLE CONFLICTS
When things are good between you two, agree on how to go about conflict to minimize misunderstandings

14. PRAY OFTEN
Talking with God often as a couple makes you two connect better

15. INVOLVE YOUR SPOUSE IN DECISION MAKING
The more you show your spouse his/her opinion matters, the more your spouse will feel connected to you

16. MAKE LOVE OFTEN
Enjoying pleasure together heightens communication

🔴 Photo of Mr. and Mrs. Alexander. Married & Saved followers from Jamaica. We pray for you the best in marriage 🔴

© Akello Oliech and Dayan Masinde