Monty

An update 💜

Hi friends ♥️
I feel the need to clear up some things.
The last two days I have received hundreds of messages and thousands of comments about Monty.
Most messages and comments are wonderful and supportive and for that I’m very grateful but there are also comments about if I’m saying goodbye to Monty now so I’m making this post to clarify the questions.

“Will you put Monty to sleep just because he has dementia?”

NO, most certainly not.
Right now it’s going very fast and the last three months Monty has become more and more confused.
But as it is with humans and dementia it can suddenly slow down and since he still have good days no one is talking about saying goodbye to Monty.
I am a strong believer of Monty will tell me when that day comes and as long as he still recognizes me and I can calm him down when he is confused no one will talk about saying goodbye to him.

“Why did the vet prepare you for saying goodbye to Monty?”

I have a whole vet team behind Monty and they are all working together.
The vet I talked to knows that I have anxiety and since she can see a huge declining in Monty in only six months she wanted to open up and talk about the difficult thing just to be honest so I can prepare the best way possible like giving him extra attention, taking pictures and make Monty even more comfortable.
She doesn’t want me to get a shock and wanted me to face the reality and the reality is that Monty is getting really old right now.
I am NOT planning Monty’s memorial but I want to start thinking about how I can honor him the best way possible for when he is spreading happiness in heaven.

“How much time does Monty have left?”

No one knows and I am NOT giving up on my soulmate, my special little boy until he tells me to himself.
Right now his dementia is full on but it can slow down again and we are literally doing everything we can to help him.

“What are you doing to help Monty?”

We have limited his space to roam around in so that he doesn’t “get lost” in the two living rooms.
We have bought different kinds of cuddle caves for him to feel safe in. Since Monty is also deaf it’s clear to us that he feels more safe in something that is surrounding him so that no one can surprise him from the back.
We are blending his wet food so it’s easier for him to eat.
We are giving him remedies from Jackson Galaxy and I have also ordered CBD oil for cats.
His blood sugar is now measured at least 4 times a day instead of only three times.
I’m getting up most nights to check on him.
We have put up blurry plastic for the windows on the kitchen door so he cannot see the neighbors cats.
We are starting on arthritis medication asap.
And many more things to help him.

So please know that Monty is LOVED, he is still happy most days and we are doing everything we can to help him have a wonderful time.
I will never give up on my soulmate but I will respect when/if he tells me that it is his time to spread happiness in heaven instead on earth. 💜

Here’s what’s going on 💜💔

Warning: emotional post.

Hi friends.
This is probably going to be one of the most difficult posts I have to make. 💔
We were at the vet yesterday with Monty and it’s not really happy news.

Since the vet had seen him only six months ago he is getting really old.
He definitely has dementia and even though we are doing everything we can to keep his diabetes under control the numbers doesn’t look good.
Monty has arthritis and yet again he has an infection in one of his little toe beans.
On the positive note his blood samples are also showing that his organs are doing great. So that makes me very happy.
This also means that he qualifies for arthritis medication and will start on that asap.

The vet was very honest with me, which I really appreciate and said that I should start to think about when and how I would say goodbye to Monty.
No vet has ever talked about this before but because of Monty’s mental health is declining due to his dementia I actually have to start thinking about this.
What a nightmare it feels like. 💔

The vet of course cannot predict when Monty’s time to cross the rainbow bridge is, if it is in a month or two years, but she can conclude that from six months ago to now it has gone very fast.

I’m of course heartbroken by this message but I also know that Monty is 15 and has been through so many health issues so it feels like we have cheated death many times and for that I am very grateful.

I have one very big wish for when Monty is spreading happiness in heaven and that is to celebrate his life.
Bo (my fiance/Monty’s dad) has started to plan the best way for me to say goodbye to Monty.

We want to travel to US and invite everyone to participate in a huge celebration of Monty’s life and how he has touched so many peoples hearts.
I want to make a speech, invite people to tell how Monty has touched your lives and I would like everyone to wear something purple (if possible) since this is Monty’s color and it is also the color of epilepsy awareness, something Monty has lived with since 2018.

I would be very grateful for a band to come and play songs like "always look at the bright side of life" and "here comes the sun".
And I would like for people to have something to drink and eat.
All these things I have to think about now, because when Monty passes the rainbow bridge I will break into a million pieces and will not be able to do much, especially not to plan an entire celebration of my soulmate, my little Monty boy.

So this is what is happening right now.
It feels so wrong and heartbreaking to even think about a memorial for Monty, but I actually need to know if you would even want to participate in such a celebration of my boy?
I need to know this to have peace in my mind and heart.
And is this even possible for me to plan when I live in Denmark?

Can I find a place to have this memorial celebration? Can I find a band to come and play? And what about food and drinks?
But most importantly is this only for me to celebrate Monty's life, or is it something that you as a friend and follower would like to participate in?

Love and warm hugs, Fenjah