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“Letting children have control does not make them feel entitled, it makes them feel empowered.” J. Milburn

Clarification: I am not saying TOTAL control… I am saying when you can, it will not hurt them, it will help to build many of the skills we need for adulthood.

When we give an adult a task and ask them to take control of the project, we do not assume that this new found responsibility will encourage a sense of entitlement. In fact, in the adult world, we assume that giving someone control over a task will encourage them to take more ownership in that task. We see how it creates a sense of agency and we expect the person to be better able to complete the task if they are given full control over it.

Why do we see children differently? Especially if this fear over creating an “entitled” child is based on concern for their adult life and motivation to perform in the workforce? The adult world actually sees giving control as a motivator for increased responsibility and agency over a project.

Here is an article about children and this narrative about a “sense of entitlement”

Do kids these days have a sense of entitlement?

“If we tell children they are selfish, entitled and ungrateful, I believe they may become that way. If we encourage and model gratitude, humility, grace and kindness, our children will likely model those traits too. You want to change the world? Be kind to children.” J. Milburn

Link to article: https://wp.me/p9YDgq-9S