Prophet 'Tobi Ministries

l promised to speak on this so yeah, let's get started. Grab some popcorns because this is gonna be a long speach.

Now, let me ask this boy, because obviously it's only a boy that can think like this.

A man, a real man won't utter such nonsense from his mouth.

Was the woman eating sand before she met her husband?

because according to the boy, the wife must have been feeding on air before she met her husband right?

you know degraded thinking like this is worrysome.

you know I once heard a guy said"the greatest scam is marriage because, how will a guy be begging a woman to marry him only for him to be the one spending on her"

marriage is designed for only a woman to enjoy? you say what?

you say what again? should we talk about what women pass through in marriage? should we start counting counting to juggle your memory?

A woman will change her name after marriage, do you know what that means? A whole change of identity.

or should we talk about the fact that women practically leave their family because of marriage, infact they
will practically tell us that our in-laws are now our parents ooo.

if your family needs help and your in-laws needs help you are expected to tend to them first if you don't you aren't well trained.

should we go on to? women constantly fighting for the love and attention of their husbands, and if by any chance you have a husband that loves and respect you, his family will have a problem with it.

or should we talk about how a wife is expected to slave for her in-laws forgetting that "base beru labi Omo"

Abi is it the pregnancy, or childbearing, or breastfeeding, or fighting postpartum depression, or stressing to still look good for your hubby after everything pregnancy has done to your body.

should we talk about delay in child bearing, the wife is automatically the problem? and the pressure mounted on the wife to get pregnant else she will have a co-wife soon.

and if by any chance the husband dies have you seen the way his family behaves?

okay let me ask you, how many times have you heard the wife's family fighting the husband over property even if the wife is richer than the husband.

But everyday we hear of mad in-laws fighting for the property with the wife of the deceased even when their son had nothing when they got married.

the list is endless.

some guys will even be clamouring for 50 50 in marriage. is it?

You don't want to spend on your woman abi, there's no house chore a woman can do that you can't do right? okay no problem.

You will carry pregnancy by yourself right? okay we know you can't abi?
why don't you breast feed the baby, that's way easier right?

The list is endless but let's just stop here

marriage is never and will never be 50/50 neither is marriage designed for a woman to enjoy, at least not here in Africa.

The problem with those guys complaining Is that they placed the value of a human's life on money. They think money is everything.

No, money is not everything, money won't keep you company money won't ensure the continuity of your lineage, a woman, that woman you are disrespecting, is the one that ensures you are still relevant even after your death.

This is the balance let everyone know and understand their roles in marriage, then, nobody will feel too burdened in marriage.

The man is the source, the head, protector, and the provider.

The woman, is the support system, the adviser, the guide, the encourager, the groomer, the home maker and she ensures continuity.

So, next time you see a man complaining about his role as a man just know he is irresponsible..

likewise, anytime you see a woman claiming she is self sufficient also know that there's a problem somewhere.

Lastly, I will say marriages will be good if each individuals will learn to be a better person for themselves.

Damilola Tolulope
A child of God

It so happened that the two Babers I have taken my sons to, for their haircuts in this area are professional nonsense cutters.

So I said let me give it a try now, last last if it yiwos, they will barb skin.

Na so I pick the clipper up I called my first son, he refused, their aunt too supported him, asking me if I want to spoil his hair, he ran away, like "this woman don't spoil my hair abeg."

The second had enough faith in me and sat down with one mind I started cutting, after several shaping and all I got the perfect shape I wanted.

Now the doubting Thomas later came telling me to cut his own too. I saa cut it for him after several shakara.

What did I learn from this my story?

No 1; I learnt that if we, because of doubt or fear of the unknown not take the bold step, I mean the first step we will never know how far we can go.

No 2; I learnt that the first step is always the hardest, it gets better with Time, confidence is built over time. Every great project started with an "if" or "what if". If we don't move to the other side of the mountain we will never the blessing that awaits us.

No 3; I learnt that we deny ourselves a lot of things from God because of lack faith.

My first son had to come to me repeatedly before I answered him the following day, meanwhile the one who had enough faith in me to sit down and allow mommy cut his hair against all odds and warnings, got his hair cut first.

Think about all the goodies and the privileges you have missed because of your doubt and lack of faith.

Imagine where you would have been, the problem with "us" christians nowadays is that we are too learned, we think we know too much, so when little instructions come we try to figure it out on our head like my first son.

I implore us to be like my baby boy who trusted mum even when it doesn't make sense. That's what faith is, trusting God, even when it doesn't make sense.

We will enjoy God more when we totally trust Him, total and absolute faith in God who sees the end from the beginning.

God is not like me, I was unsure of the outcome, but God is always sure of the outcome. Always, always sure.

Have faith in God. Sella

Tolulope the barber
Goodnews always.