Parenting with Purpose

Children internalise comparison deeply because home is supposed to be a place where they feel fully seen, loved and accepted for who they are.

Growing up in a large household as the first child and first daughter, there was an immense pressure on me to be the best child who will set the standard of academic excellence, morality and virtue for my younger ones and this often made my parents compare me with other people’s children, whom they believed embodied the standard they wanted to see in me.

I was trying to make them proud and I desperately wanted them to see my efforts and appreciate them but they were fixated on pushing me to be better so much that they failed to see that those other children had their own flaws as well.

Comparing children with their siblings or other people’s children leaves lasting scars disappointment is valid, comparison is not!