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My younger sister lost her husband some years back and after the burial and every rite, the family called our family for a meeting.

They said since my sister has only one daughter they would want her to still bear children for her husband.

My brother asked how she would bear children for a man we just buried. Did he deposit his semen in a s***m bank?

The family said his younger brother will raise children on his behalf. My brother said never, no one will reduce his sister to dirt.

The family said they have two options for her, agree to their terms or walk away without anything.
My sister wept bitterly, she said how can a 23 yrs old boy that calls her aunty mount her to raise children for her husband?

She said she doesn't mind bearing more kids for her husband but she can't allow the last born to do it and unfortunately he's the only male relatively available in their family.

My brother said even if they had other options he would never allow anyone subject his sister to a baby making machine, that they should keep their son's property, he would go with his sister and take care of her and his niece.

He stormed out with my sister and my sister never went back, even to pick her clothes, she remarried a few years back and my niece is in secondary school now.

No one in my family ever speaks of my sister's former in laws, its as if they don't exist.

What says you?

A widow Needs Comfort Not Chaos.

So some years back a friend's husband died and I happen to be with her all through from the day it happened until date for burial was fixed and I went briefly to my house. All preparations for the burial was made and we went for the burial. We also stayed upto a week or so before I came back.

And all through the time I was with her I was able to give her the "Widow's Manual" Yes that's what I call it.

- [ ] I told her that you'll get re?ected from even the people you hold dear to your heart
- [ ] I also told her that you'll be so disappointed too and it will possibly come from your most trusted allies
- [ ] I made her know that she will loose her friends even without offending them
- [ ] I also made her to understand that she will be sti^gmati$ed and avoided
- [ ] She learnt to hold her peace when each of these happens too and she will call me and say, Ifeoma ihe ikwuru na emekwa one by one and I'll laugh😂
- [ ] I also told her that her husband's family will also start w@r with her, even when they don't have reason for that.
- [ ] She also learnt from me that everybody will start calling her ashewo who kpaid her husband 😂so that she will be free to be jumping around and if she eventually dresses well they will say that na men dey sponsor her lifestyle
- [ ] And I told her that she "must" dress like onye uwa na atu na onu, so that when they see her they will know that Yes her husband di3d.
Finally I also gave her the w3@pon of w@rf@re which is.
1. Hold God tight
2. Hold unto God
3. Jidesie Chukwu ike
4. Then do not hope in any man but God
5. Then sell your ear, shame, self-pity, use the money and buy enough strength because you'll need alot of it
6. Finally don't send your children to anybody. Stay with them instead
7. Cut your coat according to your material and not your size because your material may not be enough for your size.
8. If you can't beat them you join then is not for you now, stay on you lane and Be Focused
9. And I tell you today it helped her to pick the pieces of her life early enough and she is focused now raising her kids
10. And the Almighty God who swore to protect, provide, bless and gather a widow and her children with so much pity and kindness has been blessing her business

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