Naas Educators

Fathers Are Most Often Guilty Of Neglectful Parenting

I once went out with a father on a business trip. When we were coming back in the evening, he told me he needed topick his son up from school so we drove there. On arriving, he signalled to a teacher who went in to call the child.

When the child who was about 8 came, he jumped into the SUV, said Tasleem, and we began the drive home. There was not a single exchange of words through the rest of the journey. And no, it was not like I and the father were talking, we were all just silent.

Of course, we cannot judge a parent just based on an isolated incident like that, however, it is still not a desirable act to pick your child from school and there was not a single word exchanged between you two. No “How did school go today?” “What eventually happened to the kid you told me about yesterday?”.

It is through small talks like these that you get to build, guide and mold your child before the tide of external influence sweeps him away.

When you listen often to your child, you will pick the problems and dangers out quickly before they become more serious, but most parents remain oblivious until the influence becomes vivid - and often, it is already too late to correct then.

Most people in pur society feel that fathers have more than enough to do already: sweating, toiling, traveling just to feed the family; therefore, the work of bonding is solely on the mothers.

This idea is not right at all.

The role of a father’s bond with a child is unique and necessary irrespective of how much bond the child shares with the mother

It is possible that kids, especially boys, who share very great bonds with their mother could still deviate from the mother’s path (religiously while loving and respecting her. It is however very unlikely that a son who shares a good connection with his father and looks up to him will follow a different path.

Also, the presence and bond of a father has been proven to massively reduce the risk of a child taking to risky and dangerous behaviours.

Yes, fathers have a lot to deal with and they must be praised for their efforts and not have it overlooked, however, their presence is much needed and - surprisingly - it does not take as much effort or time as one would think.

In the next writing we will give clear details on how to bond better as a father without stressing yourself out.

Share your thoughts or/and experience about Father-child bonding with us in the comments section

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The Different Types of Parenting

1. Gentle/Permissive Parenting

2. Neglectful Parenting

3. Authoritative Parenting

4. Authoritarian Parenting

Question

What kind of parent do you think you currently are? (You can be a mixture of more than one) and what kind of parenting do you think is most healthy?