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I AM TIRED OF THE STORY OF THE COUPLE TRENDING! Read to the end to know why!
First of all, are you not tired?

If you are, please come with me, let´s look into this palava wey dey my table today. It´s another Friday Palava With BigMary.

Just a few years ago, an online in-law went so far as to say that Min. Mercy Chinwo´s first child resembled Min. Nath Bassey, and the whole of social media exploded. Hmmmm, Nigeria and cruise, sha!

What was never expected to be done by MM1 and her husband was done, and they trended again for doing the right thing. But wetin happen at last? An apology was tendered because the online in-law couldn´t afford the money wey them for use bail their careless words.

And fast forward to now, I am seeing that a lot of people never still get a level of social media sen-se or to at least learn from the lesson that was taught the last time. To think that gospel artists are not humans that you can cyberbully them and not meet them in court was something else.

Honestly speaking, it´s because of things like this that I decided to be discreet with my life on social media. If you know me before, I dey sabi post personal stuffs, but now, na only my business brand palava I dey post wella wella and a little of my personal life gist because the way some people, especially umu nwanyi these days, have taken it upon themselves to become social media monitoring spirits abi social media supervisors, abi social media class captain done tire person.

The way some of you have refused to learn how to comment intelligently and mind your business is really alarming!

Please, I beg again, can we at least learn how to mind our business for once, because what is this again oooh? Why are some people gradually making the social media space so toxic for their fellow users?

Please, stop catching cruise in the comment sections of people´s personal lives kwanu? It really doesn´t make sense at all anymore. It is because of people like you that the government will keep thinking of regulating or banning some kind social Apps for this country.

In all your scrolling for this space, learn to walka pass. You must not comment on every post you see online because the day it will put you in trouble. No talk say bigMary no tell you.

Abeg, we can do better. Thank you!

Lastly, this is why I got tired of their story. The stories are no more aligning, selfishness has taken over, and again, the online in-laws will not allow them to settle amicably. Their comments are beginning to add more fire to the palava arising. If not for social media, how these trending couple wan take expose their gbegeh wey dem get inside marriage. Before na the love of money cause am, another person say na the girl family cause am. Now, them talk say na four different age be the problem. Tomorrow, we go soon hear say, na their village people be the cause of the problem. Are you guys really kidding me because what is type s**t again?

Oya Ngwanu oooh, type s.h.i.t!

It is well.

Marylynda Obioha

Women's Empowerment Strategist Women Palava Blog // Women Palava Network - WOPAN

Dear Young Woman,

Please help me ask this insecure man how his marriage has turned out to be a place of competition and a press conference. Who told him that a woman or his wife is his challenge in life?
If he had always been secure in himself BEFORE marriage, would he have ever taught that his wife is his competitor? Kai, what an annoying mindset from this man!

Please, help me also tell him that a woman who is BELOW him doesn't mean he can't be disrespected. Tell him that respect is reciprocal. Make it sound into his ears that respect has never been one-sided. Even if you are a grandfather and you go ahead to disrespect a little girl-child, that little girl will turn around to insult you one day if she can no longer bear it again.

Please, just tell him that he should stop spreading the wrong message on social media because normally, they are both light shining in their own way. Just like the sun and the moon! You can never see them competing with themselves. Tell him that the woman is also a light and should be allowed to shine in her calling. The truth he does not know is that when he allows her to shine, she projects him, the man, the head, at the city gate and to the ends of the earth!

If more men were trained with the right marriage motive, this particular man would not be here advising his fellow men to do something that has resulted into exactly what is trending online today. When it comes to the topic of marriage, the internet will just be on fire, making marriage more difficult for those who want to genuinely get married in life! I pray that those in marriage chaos find peace in their marriage in Jesus' name.

Today's Hashtag Friday Palava with BigMary will not allow me call names at all but all I can say is this, If you are truly the LEADER in that marriage, why not handle matters well and make her understand that you don't wash your pants and boxers outside since you are the older one here, but since we don't know how you both have been doing your marriage behind closed doors, how do you want us to fully get involved in this matter, the way you are going?

My prayer is that we shall not lose this little girl-child that you want to silence because you don't want her to outshine you. When you do your part well as a man, that woman will give you back what you have given to her in multiple ways. Never forget that a woman is naturally a multiplier. Allow her to shine and give her peace and see if you will not receive shining peace press down, shaken together and running over.

Hmmmm, , may WE not experience these kinds of insecure men in Jesus name.

Oya, repeat after me.
I will marry well.
I will marry right.
I will marry peace.
I will marry once.
I will marry maturely.
I will not marry for social media validation.
Oya, run to the comment section and drop more prayers there, let's type amen with you!

Marylynda Obioha

Women's empowerment Strategist at Women Palava Network - WOPAN - WOPAN



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Happy International Day of the Girl-child!

Listen up, girl.

You are valuable!

Even more valuable now than ever!

Don't ever compare yourself with any other creature.

You are unique in your being.

I keep saying this: I will choose being a girl again and again.
Brace up, girl.

I celebrate you.

Women Palava Network - WOPAN celebrates you, too.

Two years ago, Chef Hilda Baci had a dream to cook the world's largest Jollof Rice. She was set to break another record that no human being on planet Earth had ever broken after breaking the first record in 2023. (The longest cooking marathon.)

And today, 12th September 2025, with the help of GINO and other brands, where she is also a brand ambassador. Her dream came to pass, and the first GINO Jollof World Festival happened. This is what the right association, partnerships, and collaboration does.

It's one thing to have a dream. It's another thing to have those who will help you achieve your dream in no distant time. Apart from all she has, her mom plays a major role in her life. It shows that she did a great job in raising a chef who can surpass her in the industry.

She understands the win-win strategy and is ever ready to support her daughter, no matter how big she becomes. I don't even want to talk about the number of people, colleagues, celebrities, and government dignitaries who came out to support her.

You may be asking why her own case is always different and why she dey always get supporters like this. Anyway, there is something she definitely knows and is applying well. The power of PR and strategic partnerships.

The truth is this: Hilda has upgraded the narrative of African women, especially Christian Entrepreneurs. She has shown us that greatness is possible and that Nigerian Christian women can do better and learn to balance things.

Did you see her pastor with them at the venue? It shows you the kind of person she is. I like the fact that more Nigerian women have risen for greatness and are reaching out to the globe. Hilda should be studied; she is good at what she does.

Congratulations to Chef Hilda, to the food industry in Nigeria, to GINO, to Nigeria. Our women have risen, and in the 5 to 10 years, we shall break more records. Will you, cos I will be a part of it.

Together, we go global.
Hilda has indeed taken us global today.
Who is the next to make this history?

“You are not an ordinary woman.
You are supernaturally advantaged.” - Marylynda Obioha

Snippet from the book titled ''The Deliberate and Desperate Single Woman''