My Message

*CLOSE YOUR MOUTH*
*1* You are getting married and still on planning stage. *Close your mouth*
*2* Do you want to travel out of the country? *Close your mouth*
*3* You are going for interview, competition or exam. *Close your mouth*
*4* Someone came to ask your hand in marriage. *Close your mouth*
*5* You are planning for your children's future. *Close your mouth*
*6* Your friends wants to know your secret as a couple. *Close your mouth*
*7* Your friends wants to know what happens in your home. *Close your mouth*
*8* Did you receive news of promotion at work? *Close your mouth*
*9* You have a dream about a future project. *Close your mouth*
*10* Your neighbors heard you quarrel with your husband or wife and they came
calling to help settle the dispute. *Close your mouth*
*11* Your child have exceptional gift or came top in his or her class. *Close your
mouth*
*12* Your husband abroad plans taking you all abroad soon. *Close your mouth*
*13* No matter how small or big your salary may be, *close your mouth*
*14* Your husband is building a house, so as to make you and the children
comfortable. *Close your mouth*
*15* Your wife has just been moved into theatre for save delivery. *Close your
mouth*
*16* You are fortunate to receive N100,000 monthly from your husband, for house-
keep, as a wife. *Close your mouth*
*17* Your female unmarried boss is showing you signs of going into a relationship with
you (single); rather than spreading it around in your office, pray about it and *close
your mouth*
*18* Your husband is very active, when it has to do with the other side. *Close your
mouth*, as it is not meant to be discussed out of your home and marriage.
*19* A leaking mouth decided to share his or her personal life with you, or a
colleague shared office secret with you; please help their condition by *closing your
mouth*
*20* Your boss financially appreciate your effort at work more, when compared to
how he does to others; *please keep your mouth, for GOD sake*
*21* She is a witch and the reason things are not going well with you. *Close your
mouth and pray to GOD only, for her to change*, as your relatives that you want to
report to were not there when you met her and started that lovely relationship.
*22* As a mentor to some people, they come around to share their challenges in life
with you. *Close your mouth*, and don't be a means of spreading people's challenges
*23* A young and a new wife, all of a sudden is facing marital challenges and keeps
running to you, as one that has 30 years experience in marriage for advice. Please
help build that marriage and home, by *closing your mouth* about all she tells you.
*24* You are this type that *always have a testimony* to share in the church every
Sunday. Hmmm, my brother and sister, things are not like before ooo. *Close your
mouth*, give GOD all the glory and seldomly share testimony for edification of the
body of Christ. Not all in the church came to worship GOD.
*25* lf you are not asked to speak over a certain issue and you know that it doesn't
affect anyone negatively; my brother and sister, even if you witnessed it happen,
*close your mouth* and walk away.
*Do you know:*
*1* there are destiny destroyers near and far from you?
*2* that some are not just destiny destroyers, but killers?
*3* that there are jealous-minded people around you?
*4* that there are pit-diggers around you. Looking for victims like you to halt
fulfilment of their destiny.
*Reasons Why Should Close Your Mouth:*
*1* It won't harm you in the first place, if you close your mouth and keep your plans
to yourself.
*2* Sometimes, when you plan and it fails, its because, your enemy is already armed
with your plan.
*3* Not all people who smile and have white exterior mind, do have same inside their
hearts. *Close your mouth*
*4* There is no need sharing a testimony before it comes to reality. In fact, in someu
cases, *keep your testimony to yourself and live longer*
My brother and sister, *KEEP YOUR MOUTH CLOSED AT ALL TIMES*

Copied! For Real Parents to take note.
Go to hotels around the campus and see the pictures of our daughters ebe e ji ha atụ
container. Importer and exporter. But you send them enough cash. You provided them
with enough money. You pay their fees. You pay their accomodation fee. You are
giving them enough cash. You are toiling hard to pay their bills
But...
That is not enough.
They want to drive jeep while studying.
Their pictures are in various hotels around the campus inside olosho directory. Some
receptionists will even ask men lodging in hotels if they want some sharp sand for
mgbachapụ. That's how you will see the pictures of our daughters who we presumed
were studying in school.
A certain Professor I don't want to mention his name went to Abuja for a conference.
They arranged for her a very beautiful sharp sand. It happened that the girl was his
daughter who was supposed to be in Enugwu studying. She's already in Abuja with a
high profile hotel. Father paused, daughter paused; both of them paused.
You see them on flight. Always on mission. They leave different universities in Nigeria
and fly to Abuja, stay in their temporary accommodation somewhere in Wuse 2, where
they pay daily after going to hustle.
Hustle?
Why hustling? What kind of hustling?
These are our children whom we have given everything— money wise.
Tell me how they are going to be satisfied economically and otherwise tomorrow
assuming they are married?
You see the problem.
No matter how woke we can claim to be, reality is there to deal with all of us.
I travel a lot, I see a lot.
Can we also talk about some of our boys who travel from state to state to meet their
great grandmothers agemate for selima nkuli nkuli in exchange for money? Because
of the nature of my job, I see a lot in hotel. I have lodged at least in 33 States of
Federation. I have been to various hotels in these places.
I see teenagers going to meet old women in their 60s for s.x in exchange for money.
They met on social media. The boys don't look hungry but afọ eju ala. I see this a lot
in PH and I have already heard series of ugly tales around that act.
I am saying all this so that everyone should be careful and advise his or her children
wisely. Unfortunately, these children doing all this will turn to parents tomorrow. Are
they going to advise their own children about what?
In Ụmụ Obiligbo's voice: "ife m fụrụ ka mụ na-ekwu".
I pause

My first heartbreak.

I got a message from an ex a few days ago. Out of the blue. He had gotten my number from a mutual friend. This guy was the first guy to break my heart. Then, it felt like he ripped my heart from my chest, squashed it in his hands, tore it to bits, threw it on the floor.

I was in my 3rd year in Uni and he was a Jambite. This guy knew how to toast even at that very young age. He brought out all the works. Dates... gifts... time... the whole 9 yards was not spared in getting me to agree to be his girl. But I was not interested even with his plenty money. He came from a rich home. Had a car. Had his own flat in town. But I was still not impressed. My friends sha stressed me to date him when they saw his devotion. So I did. And I enjoyed the relationship.

Ahmed (not his real name) loved women and women loved him. But I was his babe. For a teen, he was quite advanced in the ways of women and of the world! He was my second s*xual relationship. The first was the guy I dated in my first year for a couple of years. That one was in his final year. And then, Ahmed in my 3rd year. Then he confessed that he had lied about his age. Ahmed was 17 while I was 20. Lol. But it did not matter. I was smitten.

Then, one day, I was in my room in the hostel, Babylon, waiting for him to come and pick me for us to go back to his flat when I heard a knock on my room door. Thinking it was Ahmed, I asked him to come in. It was not Ahmed. It was one of those boys in the hostel you run on errands - go and buy me suya ... go and buy me biscuit... it was him and he had a note for me. The note was from Ahmed, telling me that he was breaking up with me. I was stunned. We had not had any issues. Not quarrelled. Everything was great.

I was in a daze so, I got up to go and show my friends the note. On my way to my friends' room, I saw Ahmed entering another girl's room. And that was when I broke down. For about a week, I couldn't function. Couldn't go for lectures. Couldn't sleep. Couldn't eat. And if you know me, you'd know I don't joke with food. The heartbreak was a pain in my heart. Exams were round the corner and I STILL couldn't go to classes not to talk of studying.

My friend Amaka reminded me of how one day, she saw me sitting on the curb at Bauchi Road, by the roadside, totally disoriented as a result of the heartbreak. I did not know where I was sef.

Eventially, I got the strenght to move on.

A few months later, Ahmed came back to beg me. I forgave him but did not want to be with him again. That ship had sailed.

Anyway, fast forward to 15 years later. I was in Nigeria and a mutual friend told me of how she had bumped into him and had his number. She gave me his number and I was curious. So, I called him and the sparks re-ignited. Bunmis*xy! Are you still s*xy? BunmSexy was his nickname for me. We were reminiscing and laughing and all. We were making plans to get back together. I was single and so was he. We made plans for him to come and visit me before I left Naija. He lived in another state, you see. We made plans for him to come and visit me in London. We made plans for us to start a long distance relationship.

Then he called me and said 'I can't be with you Bunmi. I'm engaged to be married. It would be unfair to my fiancee and it would be unfair to you too.

I thanked him for his honesty and we totally stopped communicating - till a few days ago when he got my number from another mutual friend. Bunms*xy, he called me again and I smiled wryly. This current Bunmi is not so s*xy again. More like 'Bunm with downward pointing bodyparts'. I still smiled sha as the nickname made me think of my younger self. My 20 year old self some 31 years ago. No matter how old a woman is, being reminded of her beautiful youth is still something to make her smile. I remembered my youth and I totally forgot that he had been my first heartbreak.

Can you remember your first heartbreak?

Ps... if you know who he is, please do not say his name. He is married now. Thanks.

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She wakes up by 4am, gives you s*x, You sleep back, she will move straight to the kitchen. She would join morning devotion by 5:30am, start preparing kids by 6:00am, serve everybody food by 7am, take the kids to school and move to her office by 7:30am, go for school runs by 2pm. She would come back to the house by 5-6pm, start washing of clothes and cooking dinner by 6pm. Serve dinner by 7:30pm, start home work for kids by 8-9pm, Shower and meet you the husband in the room by 9:30pm, discuss with you and catch fun so that you will be in the mood for s*x. And you the husband with your big head will sleep like a king, She will get up to check on the children if they are sleeping well, off the light, Start praying for you and the family by 12am -1am.. Sleep a little and wake up again by 4am to start all over again... And yet we don't respect the ladies in our lives.. Oga change your ways. Good women are to be celebrated. Sometimes I feel nature is unfair to you. But you are a miracle. It's you who bleeds blood every month with severe pains and crams. Even in those pains, you still have to put things together for a normal day. The cooking, washing, etc. It's you who carry another human inside you for 9months. The inconvenience, the discomfort, the sacrifice, and carefulness. You sacrifice what makes you happy just to keep another life healthy. When it's time to deliver, your life is on the line. It's a 50/50 chance for you. You may live and you may die. But being the life-giver you are, you will choose the life of a new stranger over yours. Even the process is not favorable to you. Either the pains of childbirth or surgery. After it all, you still carry yourself up and continue life activities with bandage and pains. But what is miraculous about this all is the smile you put on your face while facing all this. May God bless every WOMAN out there. Good women are to be celebrated. 🙏 Amen

*S*X IS A BLOOD PACT...*

When a virgin has s*x for the first time with a man, the fact that the rupture of the h***n causes a flow of blood which spurts on the s*x of the man, means that an alliance has been established between them , and only death can separate them.
When a man has s*x with a virgin girl, he washes the blood of the h***n and thus binds himself to that girl by a wedding ring.
Many men and women will not fulfill their destiny because of the one to whom they gave their virginity.
It is because of this covenant that God does not want you to lose your virginity before marriage.
When you have s*x with your partner, this is your way of saying, "My enemies are now your enemies, and your enemies are now my enemies; My friends are now your friends and your friends are now my friends; I will stay by your side no matter what, I will never leave you and I will never abandon you. I will defend you to death
You had one flesh, united soul and body! Here is what the Bible tells us:
"1 Corinthians 6:16 ►
"Do you not know that whoever becomes attached to the pr******te is one body with her? For, it is said, the two will become one flesh."

This type of alliance should only be made by those who are married. Whenever you have s*x with a person, you make a blood pact with that person at the same time.
When God made a covenant with Abraham, it was through circumcision which included a shedding of blood. When God gave Moses the commandments and the covenants, the blood of animals was one of them.
Through s*xual sin, body, mind and soul are linked. Everything that is in the man or in the woman enters the life of the woman or of the man. Through s*x, you receive all the iniquities of your partner's family in your life and even their ancestral curses because the life of a man is in the blood.
You can see that there are some girls where boys who are calm in nature and who become rebellious because of the s*xual relations they had with girls or boys who are rebellious in nature.
Sexual sin can turn your good destiny into a bad destiny. And a person can steal your destiny through s*x.

You see some girls or women who, after sleeping with a man who has a curse, end up with the same curse in their lives. Things don't work for many people because of the kind of people they slept with. Many have been initiated into things that they themselves do not understand because of s*x.

Even the world of darkness recognizes that s*x is a pact of blood. If you have s*x with someone who is part of a sect, you are automatically initiated spiritually and in your dreams you will find yourself taking part in meetings with strange people. The dark forces of this sect will begin to influence your life without your knowing it. This happens to a lot of people.

So be careful who you sleep with because you don't know where your partner's bloodline and spirits come from.
Even the occult world knows the power behind s*x.

By s*x we can steal your crown, steal your throne, sn**ch your graces, tear your tunic, steal your gold and your silver, change your star, destroy your projects, suck your grace, kill you, bury you alive .. .

Many failed after 5 minutes of in*******se because of energy and spirit transfers.
Many have killed their future because of a blood exchange.

NEVER HAVE FUN WITH S*XUALITY.

You wonder why everything is bad in your life, bad luck follows you everywhere! why you have repeated nighttime diapers (Visiting a husband or wife at night), you suffer from frigidity, you are bombarded by impure thoughts of a past relationship (fantasy) despite you are with your partner or your partner,

Yet you are the cause, you sleep with anyone.

Then you accuse someone in the village and others even accuse their family members while you yourself are the author of your curse.