Basol Conglomerate

Lots have been said on this Hakimi saga. I have really enjoyed the cruise because it has opened my eyes to some harsh realities.

While I commend people for being sincere in their opinions I think I will need to point out some things in this piece. I am not such a good writer, as you would expect, but take the much I could put together.

Many ladies have openly written about how they would be glad to have a son like Hakimi but not a husband like him. A lady openly declared that she would never have her hubby as her next of kin, because, according to her, he would die before her. Oshey, na you dey decide who go first die😂😂😂. Some openly claimed they would will their belongings to their families for labouring to raise them.

My question is, did the man's family also labour to raise him? What about if, God forbid, in the course of giving birth to a child you intend to will the asset to death comes, have you ever considered this? Such situation may mean that neither your child nor your husband could access the inheritance. Is that the best you can do?

Many ladies have been bashing Mercy Chinwo for making her husband her producer. The audacity of reprimanding the minister for doing the right thing still beats my imagination.

I wish to ask again, what is marriage? What does it mean for two to become one? Has God changed the purpose of marriage for our generation?

I think we now see marriage as a form of transaction or a means of escaping poverty or better put, a means of unrestricted and uncensored access to s*x. Gen Z needs to help me define marriage again.

I still wonder how I can be married or engaged to someone who I can't grant access to whatever I think I own. This is wickedness. And anyone who is unwilling to equally grant me access to her belongings is not supposed to be my forever.

I think some churches are helping this menace by changing the marital vows into "For better for best", when it's actually, "For better for worse". No one prays for evil but we need to know that God, who instituted the union has decreed that the two shall become one and no longer two. He further stressed that He hates putting away (divorce) and wrapped it up by saying that the man or woman should leave his or her father and mother (family) and cleave to his or her spouse. Remember that the use of man in God's word is generic.

On this note I ask again, what does marriage mean to you? If you are unwilling to go by the injunctions of the proponent of the institution why go into it? Do you think you can graduate from a school when you are recalcitrant to its rules and regulations, simply because you were matriculated? May God help me to get it right 🙏

If many of you are not careful, Facebook relationship experts will damage your understanding and perception of the role and responsibility of a man and woman in any type of relationship.

It is here that I first heard that men who love, care, adore or go beyond their means to protect their wives or the female folk are classified as simps. This is far from truth.

On the contrary if you have to be a simp to keep what you treasure, please become one.

An Alpha Male that cannot manage relationship that one na Alpha Male?

Even God repeatedly tells men to love, cherish, adore, decorate etc the female, especially to understand that they are the weaker partner while He instructs women to submit to men.

There is no issue of EQUALITY here but EQUITY. Its simply to maintain balance and fairness. It would be an arduous task for a woman to submit in the absence of love.

We can't be wiser than God. If we follow His rules we will succeed.

While in university, a friend asked me why I don't attend relationship programs to prepare for marriage. Infact, he wanted to know if I was gay or Eu**ch as I don't have fiancee which was in vogue in school.

I laughed him off. I told him I had more important issues to attend to at that point in time, then made him understand that every relationship idea I need to succeed in marriage and in life is contained in the Bible.

It's been more than 20 years many of them are now divorced after marriage even with the vast knowledge they acquired from listening to different experts rather than paying attention to the Word of God, while some are struggling to stay together.

The Bible is a perfect relationship teacher.

If you stay with the Word of God, your marriage will succeed.

Stop listening to dumb folks especially s*x perverts who think that applying different s*x styles can keep a man tied to their loins.

To Church mamass; Balance your Church activities in your relationship or marriage. Stop making someones son suffer lack of attention because you’re serving God. Pick calls. Drop text MSGs even if you’re busy.

May you not be saving soul and your own marriage is dying, balanced my dear. Stop making whoever you’re in a relationship with feel alone.

Those alone moments are dangerous to him and you. Sudden attention keeps coming without a request.

Sister Chiamaka would’ve called and care 50 times when you’re away. We feel loved in a continuous flow of attention even when married 🤷

Many relationships and marriages is suffocating because one is serving the Lord without wisdom. For I bear them record that they have a zeal of God, but not according to knowledge…Rom 10:2

Balance your service to God. Step aside and call him. Tell him he means so much to you. Text him how you can’t wait to talk to him and he’s the life in your breath. lol.

This alone is more than Kayamata (african love spell) this would make him restful and feel the cord of love, care and attention.

Don’t loose your home because you’re serving God. Learn balance to your spiritual exercise.

To say you love isn’t enough but your concern of care prove your love velocity to one another.

I love you ❤️

What do you crave for in a relationship the most?