Family issue

GUYS are all over the place complaining that there is no good woman out there for marriage. Ladies are there asking for God to give them husbands and doing everything within their power to have a husband. Prayer contractors are smiling to the bank as they keep taking advantage of their vulnerability. Prophets now collect money from sisters to get them hooked to brothers through prophecy. Many have even gone the way of rituals, going to bath in the river, going naked before pastor/prophet/Imam just because they are made to believe that there is one spiritual husband somewhere and the spiritualist has to engage in s*x with her to drive the evil spirit away. Atrocities going on… all in the name of God.There is more to marriage than what we see and what we are made to believe it is. If you don’t understand this word marriage, being married will make your life more complicated and that is when you see yourself wishing you were single; that is when you see yourself still thinking of all your ex boyfriends or girlfriends; that is when you turn angry each time you set your eyes on your spouse. You cannot tell me you are ready for marriage just because you are thirty-five; you can’t be ready for marriage just because your friends and age mates are all married and you are tired of being a bridesmaid and wearing ‘aso ebi’ (colour or material specially selected for the bride or groom); you cannot decide to get married just because your mother wants you to get married and she is in need of grandchildren. Marriage is serious business and only those who are prepared for it go through it happily.It’s not about the celebration; not about the Vera Wang wedding dress; it’s never about the number of guests present; not about the number of bishops present at the wedding; it will never be about the different colours of ‘asoebi’; it’s never about your honeymoon destination, it’s about the two individuals coming together in marriage and how determined they are to make it work.