Health and Relationship Tips

Good morning sir ,
Please post for me and conceal my identity .
This isn’t my account though
I’m a Nigerian graduate and I do an online business to assist myself and I’m 25 years old.
I and my bf have been dating for 3 years , during the first 2 years plus he wasn’t supporting me financially., in 2 years he only gave me money twice to make my hair , whenever I asked for assistance he would ghost me for days (cut off communication with me for days) and wouldn’t give me anything.,,sometimes he would promise me things on his own but he wouldn’t do them and will disapp0int me big time, (I was still a student then tho)since I had a way of supporting myself I didn’t really care much but I was bothered as to why he would say he loves me and doesn’t support me in the little way he can , I’d get him gifts and I’ve sent him money too when he was d0wn financially ..,, so this year like 3 months ago(this is our 3rd year together) he changed and started giving me money like 30k,20k.
Let’s say he has given me like 70k in total but the thing is I’d give him too like 100k, 50k and I’d get him gifts too
He told me we would be supporting each other and he had changed but I’m scar3d if this is true because we’ve br0ken up many times and reconciled after he begged with t3ars in his eyes
Now the problem is I think I’m giving him more than expected ,the truth is he’s super rich so money isn’t his problem , he doesn’t want me to leave him because he loves me and all that but these days he keeps saying he has no money when I asked him to give me some money to get my hair done.
This week his boy had asked him for money and he gave him same day he asked , whereas I’ve been asking him for weeks and he said he’s not financially stable for now .
Does it mean he doesn’t prioritize me??
I support him too because I don’t wanna be the kind of girl that doesn’t bring anything to the table.
Whenever he’s in need of money I’d send him money if I have ,he’s rich tho but you know sometimes u can get br0ke so I’d assist him
I’ve never ch3ated on him all these years
Pls advise me responsibly 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Does he love me ??
I’ve money to get my hair done but I just want my bf to atleast assist me too , I don’t want the relationship to be one sided you know , as a result of how he always ghosted me in the past whenever I asked him for the least amount I get scar3d till date whenever I wanna ask him for anything because of the f3ar of being ghosted on ,he’d give money to many people but not me

Good morning admin, I salute you. Plz, hide my ID. My husband is an engineer and a lecturer and I am federal government worker with three kids( two boys and one girl). My husband is 43,and I am 38. This is 11 years old marriage and legally both tradition and white wedding but we are from different states. My father in-law and mother in-law are both alive.They have 9 children including my husband as the first, three girls and 6 boys. They do things in their family without my knowledge. Nobody carries me along. They call me when they need money. My husband includes me when he knows he cannot afford to give them. The sisters ins*ult me anyhow including their mother. The family us3 my husband as a rag. if I talk my MIL (mother in law ) will sparkk like fiire. presently, my husband is training his three siblings in the University. Two have graduated , trained by him. He does not feed us well except if i do. presently, our house rent has expired and he said he does not have cash to pay. Imagine the bul$hit! But he is paying achool fees and house rent for his siblings. Because he rented an apartment for them outside the campus. If I did not pay school fees nor house rent, he will not pay. I mentioned it to his mum and the woman told me to use my money and pay. That they suff.ered to train my husband in the University. It Is his turn to train his siblings now. That I should not complain. Always borrowing money to take care of his family. He went and opened cement business in the village without my knowledge and the business did not last for one year. I later realized that my MIL told him not to tell me. I bought a land 4M and he had refused to help me develop that land til today rather he told me to be patient till he finished training his siblings in d university. He drives my car around without fueling it. He wears non.sense clothes around. Sometime I will be asham3d of myself. This will make me to shop some good wears for him. But for how long? He prefers to protect his family and siblings than me and my children. One of his sisters was impr3gnanted by one of our security guards, a student too. Do u know that up til today, no body told me about it including my husband. I heard it outside and I pretended that I did not hear. Sir this is the height of it. My husband bought a bike for his brother without my knowledge until he had an acciident with it. All the family call my husband every day but no body call me , ask of my kids. Are they using him or what? Can this be charm? who will help me? And I don't hear their language that is the worst of it. Even my kids call him a wic.ked father but I will tell them to keep quite. They are 10, 8 and 6. If I travel for official assignment, they will cry because of the ill trea.tment of their father. He does not take care of them nor do their assignments. A lecturer for that matter. He wears one boxers from January to December except if i replace them. Why are they wic.ked to me including my husband?

The family does not use eyes to see my family including my husband. This is Four years now he does not call my people. My dad di.ed four years ago and my husband did not contribute one naira for his funeral. For how long will i cover up that all is well? I want to secretly seek for transfer to my state and run away with my kids without him knowing. I am tir3d of the situation. Pls advise me

Hello sir please I need advice and pls hide my ID.....I have been dating this guy for a year+ now and I really love him so much nd he loves me too ,he's so caring nd understanding but Sir the thing is that he doesn't give me money but he only advice me to hustle, since I met him he has never surprise me with anything like gift and I have been an understanding girlfriend to him. We are going to two years now in the relationship ...but last year I met another guy who is married with two kids in Nigeria, meanwhile I base here in south- Africa...so I started dating this guy secretly without my boyfriend knowing...and this very particular guy is so caring, he gifts me and also help me with my families needs..so the dating has been going on…now finally I got pr3gnant for him ..sir the thing is that I wanted to ab0rt the baby but he refused me doing the ab0rtion ...he's saying that he want's the baby and he will marry me as second wife and will take good care of me and my youngers siblings...now the pr0blem is that I dont love this very particular guy to the extent of marrying him ...I love the first guy so much and he's very serious about me but the main reason why i ch3ated on him at first was that he doesn't take care of my needs but he loves me very much aside that....Back to this second guy he is so serious to the extent he told all his family members about the pr3gnancy and now he's thr3atening me ..saying that if anything should happen to the baby ..he will be the one to personally return my d3ad body to Nigeria and sir am so scar3d and confus3d. At the same time am thinking about my first guy because he's not ready to let me go..because he has been saying he has plans for me and ready to marry me and he's so serious about it ...how am i gonna break the news to my first guy now ...am confus3d , please I need advice.

Good morning sir please post and hide my I'd, I got married to my husband about 5yrs now, but I have not miss period with him before, and kept telling me that if he discovered that am the cause of this childlessness we are going to divorce I said no problem, but right now he doesn't care about me anymore, he is running after another girl he doesn't give me feeding money again he insultts and also abus3 me openly, he keeps late night, so one day he went to see a native doctor with me knowing when he came back he said the native doctor told him that his ex girlfriend vowed that he will not hear the cry of a baby, someone invited us again to church the pastor still told him that, he slept with his ex and the lady took his sp3rms to their altar and vow that he will not hear the cry of a baby, we went to hospital they did some tests and discovered that my husband didn't have reproductive sp3rm in his system. What should I do ? I need advice , please am 40yrs and he’s 42yrs