How to Find the Right Partner

*THE THREE D'S IN A RELATIONSHIP*

This is another thing we need to know about a relationship. If u are truly observant, u will know that every successful relationship has 3D's which it peddles on. What are the 3D's component in a relationship? At the end of this write up, u will know the 3D's component every relationship must have to succeed.
Now the first D is decision

*Decision:- Decision making is very important, not only in our business also in our relationship with people. Decision is a test of readiness and willingness to face whatever challenge that may crop up in ur relationship, when u lose this decision aspect of relationship, u will continue to lose good people in ur life, sometimes u may see urself as being unlucky in a relationship, but the truth is, u have failed in a taking up a decision process which is mostly required in a relationship. Little wonder at the alter, the preacher before joining two people together as one, would go a long way in asking them question, to ascertain their readiness and willingness to be together, that's DECISION. So have u decided? If truly relationship is still fun, please choose a hobby, relationship is not for u.

*Dedication:- This is another D component which is the second D component in a relationship. Having decided, it is expedient u dedicate all u have. Dedication means putting in ur best in ensuring a profitable outcome, u can't have what u want in a relationship if u fail to commit and dedicate urself to it. Any relationship that wants to stand the test of time must dedicate itself to the best

*Determination:- this is the third D component every relationship must have. Having decided to be with ur partner, u dedicate urself in making it work not only that, u must have the determination to be supportive in whatever capacity u can. Determination is much more than to say I love u, is much more than to say I will be with u forever. Promises of being with ur partner comes more reliable when proven with action, being there for them, fighting through crucible ordeal together and still coming out strong together. Determination keeps u ahead when things are not right in ur relationship, determination holds u on from falling. If truly love someone u have to decide to be there forever, then dedicate to fulfill what u have decided to do and be forever determine to achieve. With this u will have a joyous relationship.

These are the 3D's component in a relationships

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*EMOTIONAL BANKRUPTCY*

Most relationship and marriages has gone in the way of emotional bankruptcy. How do u feel when u realize that there is no money in ur account to dispense? Isn't that awkward? The same thing applies to relationship. Most relationships and marriages in our society has lost it fragrance of love as a result of emotional bankruptcy. However, emotional bankruptcy is the lost of emotional feeling, love and attraction in a relationship. But the question is, what can cause emotional bankruptcy? Many reason could be why people loses love and feeling for their partner in a relationship and it comes as a result of ill feeling which has overwhelmed the blazing fire of love.

**Causes of emotional bankruptcy**

*Love built with lies:- One of the thing that causes emotional bankruptcy in relationship is lies, love built on lies. Often times relationship mostly founded on lies are likely to face emotional bankruptcy, and it cause when the hidden truth unveils. Lying to someone who u truly love is not far from backstabbing. Why would u lie to someone who has given part of their to u? Yes, lies may bond up the relationship but the devastating effect of the lies is unspeakable. Therefore to avoid emotional bankruptcy in a relationship, be truthful, be transparent, be honest, be sincere and u will have a harmonious relationship.

*Infidelity:- another thing that can lead to emotional bankruptcy is infidelity. Even the holy scripture made it clear that any man that can take on his responsibility in a home is much worst than an infidel. Not doing what is right at the right time has a way of infiltrating emotional bankruptcy in a relationship. Be u the man or woman, ur role must be rightly done if truly u need a peaceful relationship. U can relinquish ur duty to someone else and still expect the same taste of love. Any time u give room to a second person in taking up ur responsibility, truly u have given room to emotional bankruptcy. So, tighten up ur end as a wo

*ANGER A DANGEROUS TOOL IN A RELATIONSHIP*

Speaking as a religious person, the scripture made it known that anger lies in the heart of fools. Speaking as a scholar, anger is an enemy to human unity. Through series of life and time, there have never been a time anger produces anything good in a relationship, and that's why it has to be considered as an enemy in relationship. Is true man as creature is fallible, and bound to make mistakes and most times result to anger and rancour in a relationship, but having understanding of why and what happened is a better way to resolve crises in a relationship. Most of us have done something we have lived to regret all the days of our life just because we gave room to anger.
"I shouldn't have done that." "I shouldn't have acted the way I did." This is the word we use when we are embattled with our conscience after allowing anger to take the better part of us, but the truth remains the deal has been done and ur regret can never undo what has be done.

Must relationship has ended over a slight mistake which could have been handled with love. Yes u have every reason to be angry when u are hurt, u have every right to say how u feel when u think ur partner isn't getting it right but why taking unnecessary decision and action just because u are hurt? U are hurt, yes is understandable, but why setting the whole relationship ablaze? Don't take decision when u are hurt, because u might live to regret every step of it.
If we must live to enjoy our relationship with our partner, it is expedient we device a machanism in conflict resolution, and one of the best way to do that is to talk things over.

If ur partner hurt u, tell the person how bad he/she has acted. Try as much as u can to convince the person in believing they have wrong. They can only apologize when they realize truly they have wrong. U can not assume that he/she knows what to do, ur assumption might be right and also wrong. Don't give room to anger, because is a parasite to a healthy relationship



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