LidiaBabenko

Trauma affects the entire subsequent life of a person. We are very resilient and enduring, so we often suffer the consequences much deeper and longer than we think.

Why do we often overlook the impact of trauma?
It affects the functioning of the brain and psyche and changes the map of our lives.

How is this?
Imagine being born given a map of all your life, as a locality, and you saw places to go, different directions, detours. Have you figured out which areas are difficult, which are dangerous, which are impossible to cross alone, and which are pleasant and even places.

Imagine trauma erasing the whole card and replacing it with another label.
Where there are pleasant places, he draws gorges, and impassable forests, and where dangers - roads.
Life starts to look confusing, and it seems that there are no chances of reaching the destination.

After the trauma, a person begins to use a broken map, often sees only obstacles and does not make an attempt to overcome certain sections on the path of life. He avoids pleasures and pleasant life oases. , although most of these obstacles are unrealistic.

How to get back the real map of life?
What is an injury, how to deal with it, is there a chance to recover from it, and how to heal from its effects can be figured out in the therapy process.

Yeah and you can run.
And it won't get any worse :)
Give it a call!

Lydia Babenko, MD, ND, naturopath and psychotherapist.
32 years of professional experience.
Appointment - WhatsApp +356 99469922

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It was never you that was not enough.

No.

This "not enoughness" was an intelligent mechanism in a young, undeveloped psyche that came online to protect you as a response to NOT ENOUGH CARE in the environment.

To admit that the love of a parent, the provision of a caretaker or the nourishment and holding of an environment was not enough would have been devastating for a tiny, developing nervous system to process.

This adaptation allowed you to figure out how to get your needs met by matching those around you...unfortunately at the expense of disconnecting from vital aspects of your essence.

The running mythic narrative of "not enough" in the background of the psyche is a reaction to a lack of love and care in our lives that became an identity.

The lack of care was internalized and identified with as one's own lack.

But...

It was not true,
it is not true
and it will never be true.

"Not enough" is what kept you safe and adaptable.

"Not enough" might even be what kept you alive.

We have forgotten that at some point most of our ancestors had to cut themselves off from the roots of their essential nature in order to survive war, illness, massive upheavals and sociocultural changes evolving us into a world of manufactured lack in order to produce MORE and flourish LESS.

We have been loyal to this suffering as a form of love for way too long.

There will never be enough we can produce to win the mythic enoughness game.
There will never be enough we can do to escape ourselves.
There will never be enough positive affirmations, workshops or spiritual hacks.
There will never be enough ways to dumb down or numb out.
There will never be enough searching or swiping.
There will never be enough validation.
There will never be enough we can buy.
There will never be enough excuses.
There will never be enough healing.

There will never be enough of anything in a world of manufactured scarcity that will make up for, fill the void or finally give us that deep satisfaction of resting deeply in the sense of real love that is our essence.

A world based in lack will never be enough for us.

It will never provide us with the resources we need, the holding required, the nourishment that is our birthright, the nurturing that is natural or the love that is our design.

It will never want to release us from the ancestral vows and contracts we unconsciously made along the way that we must remain loyal to this suffering as a form of love, that we must suffer to grow and that enoughness is something we must manufacture.

It will never be enough because what can never be named or acknowledged is that this lack of love is hurting our collective hearts and harming the ecosystem of life on this planet.

It will never be enough because it has wiped grief out of the lexicon and left us feeling our humanity is flawed for feeling our feelings in the first place.

Grief.

The very thing that can heal us.

It is our grief that is love.
It is our grief that is aliveness.
It is our grief that yearns and knows and longs and cares.
It is our grief that will liberate us.
It is our grief that will pull us back into the truth of our own essence.
It is our grief that liberates our shame back into wholeness.
It is our grief that heals us.

It is grief that will set us free.

You were always, always, ALWAYS enough.

More love.
Not less.

~ Dr. Mia Hetényi: https://www.sacredalchemyhealing.com/

[Art: Mary Alayne Thomas]