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AITA for not wanting to take care of bf’s brother?

My bf and I have been together for just over a year. Four months into our relationship he brought me to meet his mom and brother who is autistic. He told me in advanced about his brother but I assumed he would be like my ex who was a little social awkward but lived a normal life. I was shocked when I met him as it seemed he was at a college 10 year old’s mental development. He had a melt down during dinner and I could see how stressed his mom was at having to deal with this.

My bf and I have been together for a just over a year. Four months into our relationship he brought me to meet his mom and his brother who is autistic. He told me in advanced about his brother but I assumed he would be like my ex who was a little social awkward but lived a normal life. I was shocked when I met him as it seemed he was at a college 10 year old’s mental development. He had a melt down during dinner and I could see how stressed his mom was at having to deal with this.

We talked after we drove back and he told me his mom was planing on sending him to a group home as she are getting older and would soon be no longer able to take care of him. I thought nothing more about this but last week his mom had a health scare and she asked him to take his brother. Both his parents are in poor health at this point so likely this will be semi permanent. He told me the plan had changed and he would have to take his brother in. I’m not sure why because everyone is getting shots and the numbers are down but he explained there’s currently an insane 2 year waiting list for entry to a group home. He wants me to take care of his brother as he works 12 hours a day out of the hour. I work from...

AITA for 'forcing' my son to wait to marry his then high-school girlfriend?

I (f50s) have 2 sons, Dan (m22) and Sam (m27). Dan started dating 'Fran' in their junior year. Towards the end of senior year, Dan came to me and said he wanted to marry Fran. At the time, Dan had multiple college options which he was going to decline to stay in our town and marry Fran. I obviously didn't support this, I wanted my son to go to college and knew he wanted that too as he'd always been ambitious. I told my son that he had his whole life ahead of him and he could get married later, but didn't need to rush it. I told him that if he went to college and waited, even just a year or two, I'd pay for his tuition. At the time I didn't know how serious their relationship was as they'd been together for a little over a year, and was scared it wouldn't work out and he'd waste this opportunity. My son happily accepted this offer and agreed with me that it would be best to wait.

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This year my son graduated college but maintained a long distance relationship with Fran, and they announced their engagement a couple months ago. We were all ecstatic about it. Sometime between then and now, my son told Fran that I was the reason he waited until now to propose. I wasn't aware until Christmas when during dinner, Fran said she wanted to say something. She began saying I paid my son to not married her and actively tried to ruin their relationship. She then said she was blessed that 'evil hadn't won' and couldn't wait to have a long and happy marriage. Everyone was silent and didn't really know what to say. My son approached me later to apologise and said she had twisted his words but it's been constantly weighing on my mind as friends and family present all have different opinions.

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If my son had married Fran out of high school, he wouldn't of gone to college. My son chose to go...

Told my wife (F35) that she couldn’t do it without me (M34). Turns out she can.

I made one stupid selfish comment to my wife a week or so ago and now my life is in disarray.

My wife is in some crisis. Her work is closed and she’s being paid, but she’s home with our kids now, including one 3 year old. She gets breaks on Monday and Friday with childcare. We went into having kids knowing she wanted to be a working mother. So this has been an adjustment… to say the least.

Onto the OG fight. She spent a long day with our kids and the neighboring kids, and when I came upstairs from work and she asked for a break, I didn’t respond well. I made excuses and didn’t offer help and for the first time in years my wife lost her temper and cursed at me.

Like an i__ot I dug in and thought I was right. I admit we both said some unkind things. But after reddit humbled me and she made me sit down and write a list of things I did for the family that day and compared it with her… longer list, I apologized. She accepted and I figured things would go back to normal.

They haven’t. My wife used to include me in parenting our kids. I did dance pick up most weeks and bedtime was split. I gave baths. Made dinner. All the stuff. Since our fight, my wife hasn’t asked me for any help with the kids. The first morning I woke up on what was supposed to be my morning with the kids, I figured she was just being nice or trying to prove a point but it keeps happening. She didn’t even send them down to say good night last night. Normally my wife does this silly game where she sends my son to ask me to read 5 books and then we would negotiate down to 1 or 2 and race upstairs. Last night I heard her racing him and came up to find her doing bedtime yet again. The kids haven’t even noticed. It’s like she’s...

AITA for decline my Step Dad's call when they couldn't find me at my Step Brother's wedding?

I (27F) was at my stepbrother's (29M) wedding a couple of days ago. For some context, my mum (59F) and his dad (57M) have been together for 10+ years at this point. My stepbrother even included my mum in the family photos at the wedding and thanked her for looking after his dad in his speech. I could not be happier for her as this meant a lot to her. However, I was not included in family photos. This hurt me a little but it was his and his now wife's day so I'm not going to complain and I certainly would never bring it up to them or anyone else other than my partner. Especially not to my mum who was so shocked and happy that she was included.

Anyways, this leads on to the matter at hand. My stepdad was talking to the brides mother later in the night whilst I was sat near them, half listening and bopping along to the music. The brides mum says to him that its lovely to have my stepbrother in the family and that now she has 4 children instead of two (both her daughters are now married). This is when my step dad turned around and said that he feels the same and he is very proud of his four. (My two stepbrother and both their wives). This instantly felt like a dagger to my gut (I should probably add that my mums previous partner said to my face as a 7 year old that he never wanted to be a father to me when I asked if I could get him a fathers day card, plus my own father left when i was two and was abusive for context as to why this hurt me so much) and my mum started questioning if I was okay. I said I was fine and to leave it but she kept badgering me and then asked me if I had been eavesdropping when I shouldn't have been. I barely nodded when she said she had heard it too and said that...