Thrive Behavioral Health

A suh it guh sometimes.

Like nothing even happened🤷🏽‍♂️😂 #fblifestyle

This is so powerful. For those who've gone through r**e or other interpersonal trauma and feel badly that they didn't right back, I hope this helps.

👉 It’s common for someone who has survived any form of attack… …(physical, sexual, verbal, war zones, and even non-human threats like natural disaster, anything wherein it was not possible to escape that threat) to ‘beat themselves up.’ 😞 Because they wanted to fight and defend, but they could not. They were helpless to save themselves, or those around them. This LACK of action talked about in this clip happens because when one is under severe threat, and they know they can’t fight back, run away, or engage to diffuse the threat (whether that’s coming from a person or a situation) the next option* on the polyvagal spectrum is to freeze. 🥶 *So freeze is actually a BLEND of the fight/flee and shutdown responses. Then, if the threat remains and the individual or animal is still alive, the next survival strategy is to collapse (aka: full parasympathetic shutdown < where a portion of our vagus nerve comes in). 📌 The more we can educate ourselves and others about how our nervous system ACTUALLY works, and that this ‘lack of action’ is not a sign of weakness, or our brain not working properly, but a real biological survival strategy, the better off we will all be. If YOU have survived sexual assault or other forms of inescapable attack, working with your nervous system and learning how to come out of that survival physiology is something that I cannot recommend highly enough. Learn about the nervous system and healing sexual trauma via a somatic/nervous system approach by watching this popular long-form video I did a few years ago on this exact topic: https://irenelyon.com/2023/05/21/healing-sexual-trauma-a-somatic-nervous-system-approach-2/

Just because something has always been done a certain way doesn’t mean you have to stick with it. If parenting feels overwhelming, whatever’s happening now isn’t helping. These are the 6 things that ACTUALLY moved the needle for us. I’ll be diving into each of them deeper inside my free Skool community…coming soon. If you want to stay in the loop, follow me and watch my stories.

How Trauma therapy works

Healing doesn't erase trauma- it shrinks its impact and makes room for more of the good stuff.  what happens in #traumatherapy can be hard to describe. Even after years of studying it, and being *in* it, I still find myself reaching for metaphors. this #doodle is one that has helped me: Originally scribbled in the margins of my #psychology gradschool readings, this illustration helped me make sense of how, through good therapy, #childhoodtrauma (or any trauma) doesn’t vanish- but it begins to take up less space inside us. When that happens, we have more capacity for #connection #secureattachment , for positive feelings, for self-respect and care. The first square in this visual shows what it can feel like when trauma is taking up nearly all the space inside the Self and crowding out everything else. The second square shows what can happen when therapy helps lessen trauma’s impact: the trauma is still there, but there’s SO much more room for other parts of us to grow and take up space. I love this model because it’s honest. It doesn’t erase trauma or pretend it’s all about “moving on.” Instead, it leaves room for complexity. It acknowledges that trauma may always be part of our story, but with good care and support and #traumahealing , it doesn’t have to be our only story. If this resonates, you can download a printable on Patreon or order an art print from my shop (still can't figure out how to get through the red tape to put a link on tiktok, but my domain is my username!) #traumarecovery #cptsd #ptsdsurvivor #mentalhealtheducation #healingfromtrauma

Sometimes your standards will remind you that you’ve been asking for the bare minimum. Aggressive verbiage is never an indicator of applied knowledge. Most people throwing empathy around only use it when someone no longer enables the behavior that indicates that they lack it. Know the history of how you move before you allow someone to convince you otherwise. Standards are not a punishment and will only be presented that way by people who see being with themselves as a punitive… Standards require discipline, discernment, and dependability and they also invite healthy living. #itsjustinformation #isaiahfrizzelle