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"People don't trigger us, they trigger our triggers"
~ Anil Thomas

This one line is responsible for occupying my mental space for the longest time.

Case-in-point: Ved and Tara's story in Tamasha

Ved saw his conflict of personality through his relationship with Tara, and because he wasn’t ready for the collisions, he would burst out in front of her, almost as if she was the enemy.

When someone calls us out on our behaviour, our lies, our dishonesty, we tend to make them the object of our anger, the anger that we actually feel against ourselves.

That’s what is known as projection and transference.
Unfortunately, at times this destroys our relationship with the people who love us the most, especially if they don't understand the internal conflict going on within us.

Thankfully, Tara was patient with Ved, and held space for him as he was slowly opening up the knots of confusion in his own mind.

Your relationships help you explore the Gestalt of your life, the "I and Thou", in the "here and now". Use them well, and you'll understand yourself at a depth that will surprise you.
PS: If you liked this, you'll love the 6 other lessons from Tamasha we spoke about in our Youtube video.

At the end of the day, all we are, are our own stories.