Healing THRU Feeling

WHEN A COUPLE OUTGROWS SEX...✍🏾

He woke up in the middle of the night and found his wife sleeping next to him in bed.

He looked at her, she looked peaceful.

Yesterday, they didn't make love despite them sleeping naked. But it is not a big deal.
It's not that he doesn't find her s*xy; it's just that they have outgrown s*x.

They have reached that place in their marriage where s*x is not a must have each night.

They have reached a deeper level of intimacy.

A deeper level of intimacy where just holding each other close as their skin touch and converse brings pleasure to the soul.

Yes, they have graduated from pleasure of the body, to pleasure of the soul.

Some nights they make passionate love, they sweat it out as he goes inside and pumps through her wetness.
But other times they talk, laugh, chill and listen to music, smile, share the same air then sleep.

He looked at her.
She turned in her sleep.

He covered her revealed shoulder with the duvet.
She looked so comfortable.

He thought of the many men out there who are destroying their own marriages chasing after s*x with other women.

This world has billions of women; that means billions of butts, b***s and va**na.

He is too mature to chase after other women, he has his Queen right next to him and no woman compares to her.

He wondered, what is the big deal about s*x that makes people destroy their own homes for a few minutes of body pleasure.

He thought of how our generation has made a big deal out of or***ms no matter how the or**sm is got; that we have forgotten the depth of love.

There is something higher than or***ms at any cost; there is love.

There is an unspeakable joy that comes with knowing you are faithful to your spouse.

There is indescribable pleasure that comes with not just making sweet love to your spouse, but also being faithful to your spouse.

There are people in this world who live for more than s*x, those are the kind who are faithful in their marriages.

The true test of an adult is when he or she masters s*x and not s*x being their master.

He looked at his beautiful wife sleeping and thought,
she is more than a s*xy body;
she is his wife,
his companion,
his best friend,
his confidant,
his prayer partner,
his co-worshiper,
his Queen.

He kissed her on the forehead.
She opened her eyes to find him looking at her.
"I love you" he said.
She snuggled up inside his arms and said, "I love you too"

He stroked her soft skin as she fell deeper into sleep.

He dozed off too - a couple that holds s*xual intimacy as something special; a couple that has graduated from the pressure, complication and confusion of s*x.

A healthy s*x life doesn't mean that s*x must happen every day, every time.

But that s*x is part of intimacy and a blessing through faithfulness;

that s*x is something that comes with no pressure, something peaceful.

There is so much to love beyond s*x.

Love your spouse through s*x and beyond s*x.

As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path,we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives." - Henry DavidThoreau

Today's quote is a very important supplement to yesterday's discussion of the "thought universe" that we inhabit. It's about the necessity for focus and commitment to achieve our goals.

Most of us, when we begin to learn to use the power of thought, find that as soon as we release our mind from our supervision it goes right back to the old way of thinking. If you've raised small children, or trained puppy dogs, you should be familiar with this behavior.

That's why with the mind you must, at first, give it the same kind of supervision. You can't just "set it and forget it", you have to provide constant supervision and immediate correction. You must be consciously aware of your thinking.

The good news is that as the mind gets trained to think positively, there is less supervision and correction required. Just like kids and puppies. But you still have to be aware of what's going on.

To use Thoreau's analogy, we want to see weeds growing on the old negative thinking path, and fresh, new sprouts decorating the clear path of positive thinking. You'll see the old weeds of "I can't" blowing away and the vibrant new blossoms of "Yes, I can" decorating your path!

It can be very interesting to see the kind of old beliefs that are falling away. When I've looked at some of my old beliefs, I was amazed at how difficult I had made life for myself. But I came out of childhood convinced that life was against me,and for years I got to be right about that.

I've been living on the "Yes, I can" path for some time now, and I like it a whole lot better! So will you.

All the best,