Seeds In Time

Grief never leaves us and whilst time allows us to process the overwhelming emotions, it can often feel like no time has passed at all.

Today marks 6 years since i held Jay's hand for the last time, and whilst 6 years may seem like a long time, it stilll feels like only yesterday. Time is really just a number.

I know that each day he looks down on myself and our families, to keep us safe and to give us the strength and determination to keep moving forward. He will always be forever missed but we are all grateful for the 41 wonderful years he shared with all those he loved and cared for.

His memory is now one we strive to uphold each and every day.
Rest in peace Jay xx

"Before the sunrise, there is always darkness"

This quote resonates deeply with me, symbolising the journey from grief and loss towards a meaningful way forward. It captures the essence of enduring darkness to appreciate the eventual dawn, a poignant reminder of hope after loss.

Everyones pathway to their personal sunrise is unique, with no rights or wrongs throughout the journey.

Despite the overwhelming darkness, witnessing the sunrise is possible. It serves as a reason to hold onto hope that the sunrise will bring a sense of 'new-normal', albeit in the new world in which we live in after a loss or bereavement.

Grief is not just a feeling or emotion, it is a lifetime of memories, experiences and relationships.

In the beginning, it can feel painful and overwhelming, like a wound that will never close, however over time, the raw edges begin to heal and the pain lessons, however the imprint remains.

The truth is, you never truly "move on.", instead we find our own unique meaningful way forward. The love you shared never disappears, It remains forever in our memories. It is okay to miss those moments in time and it is okay to feel 'all the feelings'.

Grief is not a burden to be hidden, it is the deepest proof that love existed, that someone beautiful was once in your life. Allow yourself time to mourn and to take a breath before you take those first tentative steps forward.

There is no timeline, nor no “right” way to grieve. Some days will be difficult, and some will feel slightly lighter. Some moments will bring unexpected waves of sadness, while others will fill you with gratitude for the love you were lucky enough to experience.

Remember your grief, it is a testament to the depth of your heart. In time, through the pain, you will find healing, not because you have forgotten, but because you have learned how to carry both love and loss together.

Valentine's Day - Grief and Relationship loss

Grief is not solely confined to losing a loved one through death; it can also be experienced when a relationship comes to an end. It is not uncommon to feel ‘lost’ following a break-up, with individuals often feeling overwhelmed not just the loss of a loving companionship, but of the numerous other losses too.

Other losses could include the loss of financial support, a shared home, or parental care of children, to name but a few. These feelings of loss are highly individualised, meaning that there is no definitive right or wrong way to experience grief following the end of a relationship.

In the wake of a long-term relationship, occasions such as valentine's day can serve as a poignant reminder that the person you once loved is no longer there, intensifying the feelings of loss.

When preparing for the days which hold personal memories, it is important to consider how to achieve emotional balance throughout the day. You may choose to completely disregard the day and avoid any triggers that may cause distress, which is completely understandable.

Following a bereavement of a loved one, it can be beneficial to find a way to feel connected to your partner/spouse and honour the day in a way that holds personal significance. There are numerous ways to accomplish this, and there is no right or wrong approach to remembering your loved one. For instance, you could visit a memorable place, or take a few moments to reflect on cherished memories of the person you loved. Nevertheless, how you choose to observe the day, it should be personal and meaningful to you.


Grief Specialists