Big Waves

I'm developing some principles of generative conflict for my upcoming course, and I was thinking that one important conflict skill is being able to be a "deep sea diver."

Lots of people would say to try to practice non-judgment or to not assume, but I think that is close to impossible. Our brains are wired to judge and assume, and that is especially true when we disagree with someone. But curiosity can be an antidote, and it is something we can develop.

People and relationships are extraordinarily complex. Curiosity helps us deepen our understanding of that complexity. We can’t transform what we don’t understand.

Like the ocean, a conflict looks one way on the surface, and we tend to make judgments and assumptions based on that appearance. But if you take a peek under the surface, there is a whole lot of surprising things going on. It's worth taking a trip under the water.

For more on curiosity and other principles of generative conflict, check out my course starting in May! https://bigwaves.ca/courses/generative-conflict/
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[ID: Image of jellyfish floating on a teal background. Words over the image say: "Generative Conflict Principle #4: We strive to be curious and ask before assuming. What stories are we telling ourselves? What's under the surface?"]

Nothing teaches change and continuity like the ocean. Every time I visit this beach it is different, transformed by tides and surf. Some days it’s long expanse of sand and others it’s rocks and tide pools. After a storm it is covered with kelp and then it is slowly pulled back to break apart in the salty waves. And yet the ocean itself is unperturbed. What are the patterns of change and continuity in your life? What are the things that help you keep continuity in the face of unpredictability?

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