Breakthrough Coaching

𝗜𝗳 𝗬𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝗡𝗼𝘁 𝗘𝗺𝗯𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗮𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗱, 𝗧𝗿𝘆 𝗛𝗮𝗿𝗱𝗲𝗿

Filmmaker and cultural icon Quentin Tarantino says that if you’re not embarrassed by your writing, then you aren’t digging deep enough. What he means is that he takes elements and feelings from his life, which he knows some people will recognize, leaving him exposed and vulnerable in some way.

Most of us spend our lives perfecting the art of concealing our feelings from the world, lest the world turn on us and make us feel the pain of embarrassment of being found out. Looking at the news and social media, one can see that the world seems bent on exposing others in consistent and cruel ways.

My father lived a life of appearances. He had a trophy wife, a successful business, a fast, shiny car, a luxurious condo, and traveled the world first class. One time, when I was 19 years old, my dad sat down at the table and started telling me that he was thinking about making some life changes. He used the phrase, “F--k the show,” meaning that his life was a show for others to watch. Sadly, he never made the changes he yearned to make.

It’s easy to live a life hidden away behind walls, whether they comprise material luxuries, thriving careers, social-media enviable relationships, exotic travels…Not that these things aren’t worthwhile. They just aren’t worthwhile if they are fulfilling a posture instead of an authentic desire. Sometimes, we hide under the guise that we don’t care. But that’s not true. I care. You care. We all care.

Half the time (at least), when I write these blogs, I think to myself a) who cares what I think? b) these blogs are so basic, a child knows this stuff, and c) everyone must think I’m ridiculous. Maybe some people do think that. Truth is if I want to be a writer and help people, I need to practice. I’m not going to please everyone, and I don’t have to. What I need to do is keep believing in myself enough to keep moving forward, which includes sharing my life experiences in a positive manner through these blog entries.

Funny enough, I always get some positive feedback on these, whether publicly or privately. Sometimes, I get a compliment on my writing itself. That’s more than enough to keep going.