Keanu River

Understand that our children's behaviours are most often signals of a need that is going unmet--feeling overwhelmed, tired, sick, invisible, or disconnected will cause children to behave in ways to grab our attention.

They are signalling to us that they need us to "see" what is going on with them. They are not looking to disrupt our day or inconvenience us. Children want to do well if they can.

Children have an innate need to love and belong, especially to their parents. When they feel disconnected they will do everything in their power to be seen by you, even if those behaviors make you want to pull away. The children who ask for love in the most unloving ways, often need it the most.