Coach Atlas

If you want to provoke defensiveness and retaliation, then continue waving your sword around. But if you want to elicit growth, change, and repair, say to yourself “that’s interesting” and then ask a question.

Note: get really honest with yourself about your approach. Most of the time, our intent isn’t to attack - it happens without our awareness, so take a pause, and then decipher what your goal is: is it to have an effective conversation, or is it to fight? Then navigate your approach from there.

These kinds of micro shifts are exactly what I help all of my clients put into practice, and, over our time together, they begin to replace the old habits of attack/defend with ask/understand.

If you believe that improving the quality of your communication with your partner would help create more connection and alignment, click the link in my bio and book a call with me. I believe that we all can be apart of an incredible relationship, and I can absolutely help you build it, no matter what stage you’re at.

Vids can be a serious a$$hole sometimes, but she is also a well full of lessons that have helped me better understand relationships. Here are 3 that come to mind:

1. Positive reinforcement goes a lot further than negative reinforcement. A.k.a - appreciation is more valuable than condemnation. (And it just feels better all around)

2. She has to be considered when making any and all plans. A.k.a - when we commit to sharing lives with someone, it becomes a necessity to consider our partner and our relationship when making decisions. If we don’t, they will p**s on the carpet 😂

3. She needs play time throughout the day. A.k.a - when we plan our days and add things to our to-do list, we must also prioritize giving love, time, attention, and fun to our partner and our relationship. Just like a dog can become depressed if neglected, a relationship can become futile if not consistently tended to.

If you have or had a dog, what lessons have they offered you? Comment them below, or just drop a 🐶 if you feel personally attacked by Vida’s side-eye. 😂